The recent TLC special Brother Husbands left a lot of viewers in shock.. and with plenty of questions!
The special showcased Amanda Liston, a woman who is married to two men– Chad and Jeremy. The trio raise their kids as siblings and live as one big family unit. ‘Brother Husbands’ did well in the ratings, and started quite the firestorm on social media when it aired on February 5.
While the special touched on the family’s dynamic, it failed to answer many viewers’ questions. In an exclusive interview with The Ashley, the family’s first husband, Chad Liston, answers all of the questions you may have regarding his family and the future of ‘Brother Husbands!’
“We felt like our family’s story was worth telling,” Chad explained. “We know there are many ‘modern families’ out there, especially ones that aren’t defined by patriarchy and monogamy, and we wanted to be a part of starting those conversations for people who may have never seen a family like this before.”
Chad said that, naturally, most people want to know about the sexual dynamic of his marriage.
“I think it’s easy to over-sexualize our relationship because of the unique make up of it,” Chad told The Ashley. “We are probably much more boring than you think!”
Chad answered more of the frequently asked questions he’s been getting since ‘Brother Husbands’ aired.
Q: Who’s having sex in the family? Are you and Jeremy having sex together, as well as with Amanda?
Chad: Jeremy and I do not have a sexual relationship with one another! Jeremy has his own relationship with Amanda as do I.
Q: Isn’t it weird to know that some other guy is having sex with your wife?
Chad: When we are all in a good spot and trusting and communicating well, I can honestly say, no it doesn’t [feel weird]. It’s a choice we all made. It doesn’t mean it’s always easy….but I love and trust them. I don’t feel threatened by love.
Q: Do you try to hold back affection toward Amanda when the other husband is present?
Chad: We try not to limit expressions of love no matter who is around. Love should be shared and enjoyed always, and we do our best to support that for each other.
I think jealousy happens in all relationships. I don’t feel like ours has any sort of abnormal amount. Considering our setup, I think we handle those issues pretty well! I also think that is something we are constantly working on figuring out. Especially as men, we have been raised with a certain mindset and expectations placed on us by society. A lot of those are in direct conflict with the way we now live.
Q: How do the pregnancies work? Does the other husband have a say when Amanda wants to get pregnant by one man?
Chad: There were many discussions prior to the babies being conceived about the babies and what that meant. I was a part of the decisions being made and we all tried our best to listen to one another and respect everyone’s wishes while still being honest. I was very excited for them to have a baby! We never expected it to be three!
Q: Will you be adding any more children to the family? Or any more spouses?
Chad: I don’t know how I would feel about that. With the babies it’s really hard to even consider adding any more members to our huge family. We all feel pretty happy…for now.
Q: Do you consider yourself married to both Amanda and Jeremy? Or just Amanda?
Chad: I consider Jeremy my co-husband. We clearly are a family unit and my relationship with him matters just as much to me as my relationship with Amanda. They just are very different relationships. I would recommend the book Sex at Dawn [link at the bottom of this story]. I especially look to that book as the template for how I operate within my family.
Q: Do you feel this relationship dynamic will have any sort of negative impact on the family’s five kids as they get older?
Chad: We have some fears and worries that our relationship will impact them negatively. We would be naive or lying to not admit that. But I don’t think we have any more than any parent has for their kids. I think, and really believe this, that it takes a village.
I was raised in a home that had adopted and foster kids. So I have a huge family myself with many siblings not biologically related to me in anyway, but they are my people and my tribe. It made me a better person and I have no doubt the same will be said by all of our kids when they are adults. At least I hope!
[My sons] never had, nor have any issues [with our marriage]. I love seeing their special relationships with their second daddy, and I love the relationships I’ve made with the triplets.
Q: How does your marriage compare to the marriages of the Brown family of ‘Sister Wives?’
Chad: They seem very separate with each couple having their own private relationships and ways to operate. The three of us operate as a triad, not as two couples. We share finances, we make all decisions together…but at the end of the day we both look to Amanda as the leader of our family. We also did not do this for any type of religious reasons, as none of us are religious any more.
Q: Amanda had so many different hair colors and styles during ‘Brother Husbands!’ Does she wear wigs?
Chad: She doesn’t wear a wig but sometimes has extensions in. We filmed over a period of time, and I’m a hair stylist so we change her color often.
Q: What do you wish people knew about your family?
Chad: We have kids, job, bills just like everyone else. We love and we fight. We just have an extra person around to love and be loved by. And because of him I have the girls in my life and my boys have sisters. It’s really lovely, so not matter the question I’m proud of my family and how it looks.
Q: Will TLC be turning ‘Brother Husband’ into a full series?
Chad: We don’t have any firm answer on that yet! Our family is totally willing to do more, but at the end of the day that’s up to TLC and the viewers demands and response to the special. Let TLC know you want more if you do!