Tyler Baltierra is slamming the adoption industry for “hijacking” the passion of those wanting to help others, including Dawn Baker, the adoption counselor who helped facilitate he and Catelynn Lowell placing their bio daughter Carly for adoption in 2009.
In a clip posted to social media this week by YouTuber Elle Bee, Tyler fielded some fan questions, with one person wanting to know how the Teen Mom dad feels about Dawn and the way open adoption “was sold” to him and Cate.
As you know, Tyler and Cate have been very outspoken against adoption in the wake of Carly’s parents, Brandon and Teresa Davis, cutting off contact from them last year. Despite their many criticisms of the adoption industry as a whole, the couple have maintained that they hold no ill will towards Dawn, with Tyler even claiming last fall that Dawn was their “biggest advocate.”
While speaking to fans this week, Tyler confirmed that his feelings towards Dawn have not changed, nor does he find flaw in the way she presented the open adoption concept to him and Cate years ago.
“ … my firm belief is that Dawn entered this space really with the pure intentions of helping people,” Tyler told fans. “And that’s why she got her social work degree is to help people and to be of service … .”
While he commended Dawn’s passion for helping others, Tyler said he believes it’s something that the adoption industry may have used to its advantage.
“ … I’ll be honest and I’m saying that I think [Dawn’s] passion for that got hijacked by this industry,” Tyler explained. “And the industry does a really good job of pulling these people in [and] saying, ‘Oh, this is what we’re doing, it’s so great … this is how you do it.’ And if your intention [and] passion [is] for just helping people, you’re gonna be [like], ‘Oh yeah, sure … .’”
Tyler went on to claim that people like Dawn who work in the adoption industry and genuinely want to use their “expertise” and “passion” to help others may not question what they’re being told by the agencies/organizations they work for.
“ … you’re not gonna question it, you’re just gonna be like, ‘This is how I do it,’” he said.
The father of three also seemed to fault the adoption industry for not being entirely forthright with Carly’s parents.
“ … I think they also got screwed in their desires for adoption,” he said.
As you may remember, Tyler claimed on social media last year that he didn’t regret placing Carly for adoption, given the situation he and Cate were in at the time; however, he admitted that there were certain things about the adoption he would’ve done differently.
“I would not have gone through an [adoption] agency and I would have picked different parents,” he said. “That’s just the truth. I would have probably spent more time with the parents that we chose. We tried to ask Dawn if we could visit at a park and get to know them … that didn’t happen. But at 16, you just kind of listen to the adults. They’re saying, ‘No, this is how this works … .’
“For me, I don’t regret placing her, I still believe it was the right thing,” Tyler added. “Me and Cate were in chaos. I don’t regret it, I just regret how I did it and who I did it with.”
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I think C&T are using Carly to make money. They should be thankful a nice family adopted their daughter. Move on Carly isn’t urs anymore you signed over your rights. Let Carly grow up and have a normal life. If she want anything to do with them when she turn 18 fine. I think deep down C&T regret giving their daughter up and how they deal with it is talking about her. They should realize they more the push could actually push Carly away. Don’t forget Carly., Write letters when feeling sad save them for the next time they see Carly.
MTV needs to get people on the show, because I am sure the viewers are getting fed up with both of them. They need to have intense therapy so they can raise the kids in their house. Enough is enough already.. Ugh!!!
Part of growing up is knowing when to let go and shut your trap. Those two will never learn.
These two had many opportunities to further their educations, get jobs, do something meaningful for themselves and the children they have. Instead they chose the path of easy money from MTV which they used to support themselves and their kids and buy houses. They didn’t put any of that money into a college degree or training for good paying jobs that they will need when MTV drops the show. They have no skills or even a plan for when the show ends. Yet, they have decided to spend what remains of their 15 minutes of fame ranting online about the adoption, the adoption counselor, the parents who adopted their daughter and adoption in general. They have alienated their bio daughter by publicly critisizing her parents and creating drama. I do not feel sorry for them and I do not blame Brandon and Teresa for cutting them off from contacting Carly. They seem to have a problem with boundaries and continued to rant on social media about Brandon and Teresa and also continued to contact Carly when they were told not to. I would have served them with a cease and desist order a long time ago…they should concentrate on the three girls they have at home and STFU about Carly. It’s embarassing for a 16 year old girl to have to navigate ths mess as it is let alone on a TV show.
Poor, autistic Tyler can’t recognize that it was actually Dawn’s passion for MONEY that got in the way.
Tyler and Cate are realizing that this hit MTV show is coming to an end. They are scrambling. Tyler paying for Butch and his sister’s high end rehabs is very commendable. That was big $$$$, and I think you should respect that.
Paying for rehab for a man who never GAF about him is not “commendable.” It’s Tyler’s way of trying to make his “dad” love him. If he does this. He’ll get that.
As far as his sister. She’s a bum f’n loser. Did you miss the part where she willingly dated a man with an ankle monito? If it was just her, fine, but she’s exposing her kids to that shit. My birth father is addicted to pills and I met him when I was 21. I wouldn’t even put $20 towards his rehab.
Are we sure he really paid and mtv didn’t? Or he didn’t use the resources from the show to get him into a rehab even on scholarship? I highly doubt tyler paid top dollar for either rehab. Probably just a good storyline for the show. Especially since both were included on the show, you know they helped in some way.
Do we not realize just how much money Tyler and the couch potato have made off of these Carly stories so far. There is no way they are going to stop selling stories about this poor girl.
Dear viewers, plain and simple, THEY ARE NEVER GOING TO SHUT UP ABOUT CARLY, don’t you get it, they have no story line other than Carly and so they desperately need that Teen Mom paycheck, therefor they will never shut up about Carly.
Omfg ENOUGH!!!!!!! They spew the same nonsense over and over and over and over literally non stop. YES, we understand the adoption was traumatic for them. But unfortunately, just like the rest of us- go to therapy, focus on being a good parent, and put it behind you. Learn to cope in a healthy way. Life goes on, especially since they have 3 other kids at home!!!
They are creating lifelong trauma for the kids they have at home with them. My mind nearly explodes when I think about how dumb those 2 are.
They knew that adoption meant the baby will be raised by different people. Of course they knew this and this is why their episode was so heartbreaking. They are just mad at themselves that they ended up with all this money and didn’t keep the baby.
Enough with the blame, enough with the crying online and damaging your kids.
Spot on.
With MTV unexpectedly running 15+ years and hindsight being 20/20, they’re stuck in the ‘what could have been’s.
Sad they can’t see it – everyone regrets past decisions , especially big life decisions, but they’re stuck just like Jenelle in blaming others & not accepting their own actions that got them where they are.
Weren’t these two goofballs supposed to be working on their own podcast?!
Has either finished anything they started in life?
They do have one and it’s pretty awful from the clips I’ve heard shared on social media. It’s the only thing they’ve stuck with besides teen mom, so far.
STFU already!! YOU screwed Carly’s parents, not “the adoption industry”. It’s YOU that can’t seem able to shut up and leave that family alone. You made that adoption your whole personality for the past 15 years.
Worry about the 3 kids you actually have to raise and STFU!!
Yeah and now that they can’t attack B&T. They have to find someone else to attack.So they chose Dawn. I felt sad for them as teens. Yes it was traumatic, but how many f’n therapists have they seen in the last 16 years. They seem to think they know what’s best for Carly. Which is ridiculous. They are her parents. C&T seem to have zero understanding of that. If they had real jobs they wouldn’t have so much time to dwell on it.
Will he ever just shut up?
my god cate looks just like april. woof.
I can’t wait until that girl is 18 and can tell them to both F off. YOU’RE the problem. Always have been.
So Dawn who didn’t go over the contract with 2 minors had just “lost her passion”? I’m not sure why they worship Dawn and blame everyone else.
This “worship of Dawn” is relatively new. They used to bash her just as much as they bash the entire adoption “industry”. It was their claim, and only their claim that Dawn didn’t go over the contract with them, which was a load of complete horse shit. Dawn, very clearly, went over the contract and all it entailed with them, repeatedly, and even included their parents when going over the contract along their rights and responsibilities (she wasn’t legally obligated to include them in the process, not that it matters since all of them are morons anyway). They have never actually worshipped Dawn, he’s only just recently stopped blaming and trashing her publicly because it likely sounds good and keeps them relevant (and able to continue talking about the child they said they’d stop talking about). He still blames her, they both do, they blame everyone and the world for their piss poor life choices. They haven’t moved past that mentality yet.
You are right! After I read this story I thought “wait a minute. I remember them trashing Dawn several times in past rants of theirs. They absolutely DID blame her.” I’m glad someone else remembers this also. Tyler and Cate seem to be incapable of remembering what they say about who, because they spend so much time trying to stay in the whole “adoption is bad” loop. They are obsessed with all of this and angry at the fact that they can’t keep making money off their relationship with Carley. These two will never grow up. It’s the best thing that ever could’ve happened to Carley, to not have to be brought up by these two immature media hounds.
I think Tyler’s trying to butter up Dawn now because she is their only tie to Carly. I wholeheartedly believe that the Baltierras were served with a restraining order and are no longer allowed to talk about Brandon & Teresa, but T&C know that Dawn is still in contact with B&T so they’re going to play nice with her now in the hopes that she’ll go to bat for them and try talking B&T into dropping the RO. Tyler hasn’t had 2 nice words to say about Dawn right from the jump, but now all of a sudden he’s defending her? Yeah. You’re so transparent, Tyler. Give it up.
I completely agree. Dawn is their only connection to Carly now and they’re trying desperately to not blow that up too
I find it so funny TYLER is talking about how Dawn, a full grown educated adult, is being manipulated by the system, as if Dawn is just too sweet and naive to really understand the industry she’s worked in for DECADES. Okay, Tyler.
Didn’t these two idiots just make a statement that they were going to shut up about the adoption?
Why can’t this dude just learn to shut the fuck up? If I were Carly, I would never speak to Cait and Tyler again after all the awful things they’ve said about her parents. I’d also be so thankful that I wasn’t raised by these two lazy idiots.
It tells us a lot that they just keep on blabbing about Carly while prob ignoring the girls they have at home. Nova is old enough and Vaeda is growing up too thinking “Why are they always talking about the daughter they don’t have?” Please stop before it starts affecting their self-worth.