Catelynn Lowell took to social media on Monday to reveal just how bad her relationship with her birth daughter Carly’s adoptive parents, Brandon and Teresa Davis, has become.
In a rant posted to Instagram Stories, the Teen Mom star revealed that Carly’s mom Teresa has “blocked” her, seemingly due to Catelynn sending too many updates and text messages to Carly.
Catelynn— who along with her husband Tyler Baltierra placed Carly for adoption immediately after her 2009 birth — claimed that it was unfair of Teresa to shut her out of Carly’s life.
“Adoption is crazy,” Cate wrote. “I’m blocked all because of me sending updates and pictures of her sisters…how is that fair for Carly and her siblings? It’s sad for sure…But, makes me sad for the kids… When you’re a bio mom you have no say… no control…all I can do is show Carly in the future how much I tried and continued to do so…she can make the decision herself to understand who shut who out.”
Catelynn has spoken out against Brandon and Teresa several times over the last few months, including recently, when she defended her decision to go public with the problems she’s been having with Carly’s parents. During that rant, Catelynn claimed she was posting things publicly because “one day, Carly will be around to see our side.”
In May, both Catelynn and Tyler shared their frustrations after finding out that they would not be getting their annual visit with Carly this year due to her parents not agreeing to it.
Cate told followers on Monday that she was “literally ignored for months” and then– presumably, quite recently– blocked by Carly’s parents.
In an effort to back up her claims, Cate posted a screen recording of multiple text messages she allegedly sent to Teresa between July 1 and September 8 without any reply.
These texts consisted of photos, videos and updates from her family, as well as messages to Carly. The updates were sometimes as frequent as every two days, according to the messages posted by Catelynn.
Cate later followed up the text message video with more comments on the situation, insisting that she gave Brandon and Teresa one of the “biggest gifts ever” when she placed Carly with them. She also insisted that she “will not let them take away [her] voice.”
“ … I post so that hopefully Carly will see it and see I have always tried,” she wrote.
Catelynn added that she is hurt that, in her opinion, Brandon and Teresa don’t care about her, and only associated with her so that she would give them Carly.
“To know I mean nothing to the [adoptive parents] but just a womb to give a child hurts my heart…I’m a person with feelings, the children I’m parenting have feelings… Carly has feelings …” she wrote.
“A child being involved with extra people that only love and support them,” she continued. “How is that threatening? I’ll never understand … .”
Cate then accused Brandon and Teresa of feeling “scared/threatened” due to Carly asking questions about seeing Cate and Tyler more often. She also accused Brandon and Teresa of keeping her, Tyler and their children distant from Carly. (Tyler and Cate share three other daughters– Nova, Vaeda and Rya– who have attended past visits with Carly.)
“ … I will ALWAYS support Carly loving her parents!” Cate insisted. “They love her and raised her! But the fact that they keep us distant and Carly’s siblings distant does not help Carly…anyone would know that if they were adoptee informed.”
Cate’s latest rant garnered a lot of feedback on social media, with some ‘Teen Mom’ fans calling her actions “a bit self-centered.” Some even voiced that Brandon and Teresa may not be sharing Cate’s updates with Carly as a way to protect Carly from getting hurt.
“ … Ever think [Carly] feels left out? Since you and your girls get to do all these fun things that she never will get to experience with you,” one fan commented on Cate’s latest post. “ … Maybe sending pictures of how much fun you guys are having could be hurtful to a teenager who doesn’t understand why she was not there with her birth mom. Maybe see a different perspective on how everything is affecting her and her family.”
Another person claimed Cate’s behavior– specifically her decision to go public with the conflict with Carly’s parents– was a form of “emotional abuse and harassment.”
“Just the fact that you even put it on social media that they ‘blocked’ you is the reason you SHOULD be blocked,” the person added, calling Cate’s behavior “disgraceful.”
Naturally, Cate also had a message to those accusing her of putting Carly’s parents “on blast,” telling followers she’s only sharing her feelings and isn’t “calling [Brandon and Teresa] any hurtful names or anything.”
“ … as bio parents we are taught to just take what’s given to us and that we should feel ‘lucky’ but if anything goes wrong, we need to shut up and be quiet,” she wrote. “OK I’m done for today.”
Tyler has yet to address Catelynn’s latest posts.
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My knee-jerk reaction is that (like the haphazard “scrapbook”) they didn’t keep any form of semi-regular appropriate, rational communication, such as birthday and Christmas gifts. Once they wanted to start the narrative of being shut out, they then started bombarding B&T, to make it appear as though they have always been attempting to make appropriate contacts.
Cate will always be a big ball of trash. Did it ever cross their minds that maybe after onlyfans and all of the insistence on sharing content about the siblings with Carly, that maybe Carly doesn’t care or even care to want to know them or their children or maybe being that the adoptive parents are very rich, Carly herself may see them as trashy or not up to par with where her life it at with her real parents? Her bio parents are NOT her real parents. To try and force her “sisters” onto her, just because she showed interest at some point years ago, does not mean she is still interested. Brandon and Theresa don’t owe a thing to Tyler and cate. If they “cared” so much about Carly, they would’ve done more with their lives than continue to pop out children like a Pez dispenser. And if they care SOOO much about their personal children who live WITH them, they wouldn’t be making their 3 lives alllllll about Carly, the daughter THEY GAVE AWAY, for someone else to raise, only to constantly be trying to insert themselves and their 3 children into Carly Brandon and Theresa’s life. They came from white trash, and although they’ve moved into a house, they will always be white trash. Cate has done nothing with her life, but she gave up he daughter to have a chance at making a better life. Only to immediately begin popping kids out, lazing around watching Netflix all day, while Tyler has resorted to ONLYFANS. Wow. I’m sure Carly is SO proud of her biological father, selling his body on the internet for money.
Do you understand what open adoption means? My neice has adopted to children that were newborns. One bio parent wanted open adoption and it has been a wonderful expirence for both familys.The bio family from the 2nd child did not want it open.Here is the thing I was at the house reading adoption magazine and guess who was on the cover( Brandon ,Theresa ,Carly and a little boy they also adopted. So much for privacy. They told there story also it was said the birth parents were from teen mom program so how the heck is that private? Carly and Vada look like they came from the same mold. I also watched the day Cate and Tyler gave her up for adoption. They were super young and all party’s agreed to an open adoption. They agreed to open adoption then they close it.Id be upset if I was cate also. They should have had lawyers back then to tell them what could happen ,that they could get the baby and decide to have no contact with the bio parents which is exactly what they did.
I wonder if their decision to go through with the adoption would have been different if they didn’t have the idea in the back of their heads that they were going to fill the position of “the couple that gave their child up for adoption” spot when 16 and pregnant was airing in the first season.
It has always bothered me how C&T act as if they have some sort of claim on Carly just because they gave birth to her.
You gave her up for adoption, stop acting as if you have joint custody!
Leave that family alone, just stop harassing them and focus on your own family Cait
Catelynn is being reactive and impulsive based on HER feelings without considering that B&T are doing what that feel is best their family and for Carly as her parents and not making emotional decisions based on Catelynn and Tyler’s family. That’s an excessive amount of communication without any thought of the impact and intrusion it might have on the adoptive family’s sense of normalcy and stability. A summary update once every 6 months is more reasonable than this every few days life diary she’s doing that is a constant reminder of what is an emotional trauma for Carly and likely something she still doesn’t fully understand or know how to feel about, even at 15. C & T are not putting Carly above themselves and their own feelings of regret.
She’s not sad for the kids at all. She’s sad B & T aren’t playing into her delusions that she’s Carly’s mom. Leave that poor girl and her poor parents alone!!
Catelynn is physically morphing into her mom. I can’t unsee it.
Fat April
This is escalating to a point that is so messed up.
Focus on the 3 daughters you have Cate.
I’ll get downvoted for this initial comment, and that’s totally okay, but I also agree that C&T were taken advantage of BY Dawn and that Cate allowed Tyler to make/influence a decision she could’ve easily changed. Essentially, she chose Tyler over Carly at the time. I also think though, too, that Cate knew Carly would have a better life with Brandon and Teresa and in that sense, she did make a selfless decision. I don’t know that I could have done that. They were young, impressionable kids, with no real healthy influences. Now, with all that said, when you step back and look at this from B&T’s view, they also didn’t forsee the inappropriate ways that T & C would act in the future… I could absolutely see why they wouldn’t exactly be fostering communication and possible influencing of Carly. The bottom line is though, that if Cate and Tyler want ANY relationship with Carly, they should just do as asked- until she is 18. At that point Carly is an adult and can get a restraining order against them, or, she can have a relationship with them. Her choice. If I were a birth mom and desperately wanted a relationship with my child, as Cate says she does, I would likely do whatever was asked of me by the adoptive parents though FOR Carly’s sake. This is about Carly- NO one else and I know if it were me, I’d not be behaving the way C&T behave, and I would also do ANYTHING to hold onto any sort of relationship with my child- even if it meant doing things I didn’t want to do. Cate should also be writing her feelings in a journal and/or processing these feelings with a Therapist, not posting them online. Random strangers on the internet are just going to give this attention- they can’t help her with her main goal of having any type of relationship with her daughter, and all this is doing is hurting her chances in helping her cause. Period.
I think Cate has a deep, deep sense of regret, but she made a choice and she needs to accept it. She and Ty have been blessed with years of contact. It’s more than most get. Cate is bordering on stalking at this point; her indignation that B&T won’t permit unfettered access to *their* child is ridiculous. I think B&T were mislead about how this adoption would go, just as much as C&T were. Imagine you adopt a child and have to deal with the bio parents demanding access to that child and when you don’t, they blast your business all over social media. And since they’re “celebrities”, millions of people see it. I have a friend that was adopted as a child. Her bio father notified the adoption agency that he would be open to getting in touch with my friend. She eventually did request the contact info from the agency and reached out. After a few visits and communication, what she found was that her bio father was over the top with his desire to have a relationship with her. To the point it was off-putting to her and she cut off contact. The same may happen or has happened with Carly. She may have expressed that desire to B&T and that is why the visits and updates have stopped. Either way, Cate needs to seek more therapy.
Those “updates” seem more like “look what you’re missing out on”. They’re harassing B&T at this point, and I think B&T need to take legal action.
“I’m blocked all because of me sending updates and pictures of her sisters…how is that fair“
Catelynn, any person with a sliver of common sense or emotional intelligence knows that this is not the whole story. Once again you victimized yourself. Does it reallllllly make sense that you are blocked bc u send pics of your kids? No, it doesn’t. If that’s what happened and you can prove it with screenshots, that Teresa tells you she is blocking you bc you sent too many photos of your kids, we will believe it.
But of course everyone knows that is not true lol
All those messages and not one asking Carly how she is, what she’s doing, what she’s in to. Just “me me me, us us us”. Gee, I wonder why they blocked her.
If you yourself create boundaries and expect others to respect them, then you should be doing the same.
Cate has a good heart, but I think sometimes she forgets that boundaries arent just for those who take off for months in the Arizona desert.
It’s becoming closer to Carly’s 18th birthday, and once she realizes the pressure is off and you give her a chance to miss you all, it will happen. No one likes to feel forced into doing something.
This is just performative. They have been using Carly for clout and publicity for that child’s entire life. It’s just gross.
If they wanted to have an actual relationship, they’d quietly and privately send Christmas and birthday presents and the occasional letter. Kim does that and Tyler admitted that he and Cate do not. And that’s because they’re only interested in the parts that get them publicity like televised visits, social media posts, and stirring up drama. If they actually have a d@mn about seeing Carly, they’d stop mentioning her name and her family on the show and social media. Period. The fact that they flat out refuse to do that says it all.
I couldn’t help but notice that out of all those messages not once did Cate ask Carly how she is or what she’s doing or anything at all. Sending “updates” isn’t having a conversation or forming a relationship. To me this looks like Cate attempting show Carly all the things she’s missing out on so she’ll want to visit them, which is crazy manipulative and hurtful to Carly. She is making everything worse by posting it all over social media. If she wants Carly to know their side than just quietly save the screenshots and show her privately when she’s older like a normal person.
Couldn’t agree more. It seems like stalking behavior
Carly is 15, if she wanted to contact them, she would. She has access to the internet, she has friends, she goes to school. IT’S CARLY THE ONE THAT DOESN’T WANT TO TALK TO YOU, NOT HER PARENTS. TAKE A HINT!!
If I was Theresa I would block her too, she’s beyond obnoxious and disrespectful and she’s always been
Cancel catelynn & ty
Cancel amber f***mtv
Cate choose to get rid of Carly so Ty wouldn’t leave her. Now she’s a obese, jobless, loser who has nothing to do all day except harass B&T about a decision she made to keep a man who likes men.
WTH. She chose to give her a life she thought would be better. She was young and made a huge sacrifice not understanding the outcome with an emphasis on understanding. At that age emotions are not fully formed. Come on.
If Carly wanted to know about their lives she can look online. Those two don’t keep anything private!
Yes, you mean nothing to them because you really are nothing to them. You are a stranger. A stranger who do porn, show awful online behavior and is trying to have a say in their life. I promise you would not like it if a stranger wanted to take part in your daughters life or saw themselves as someone you have to take into consideration – especially if you did not like the stranger in question.
Sometimes I wonder if it is Cates abandonment issues talking. She seems to want Teresa to like her and be like an extra mom or something.
Catelynn has changed so much since the early seasons of the show. She was such a sweetheart and was a very level headed young lady. It’s almost like the older she gets, the more immature and selfish she gets. Very disappointing.
I can’t say I blame the adoptive mother. I understand they made a difficult decision giving the baby up for adoption but I can’t condone what they’re doing to this child. Maybe if they weren’t so pushy and they didn’t bad mouth the adopted parents every chance they get, things would be different. But as it stands the adoption was open but their parental rights were terminated. Visits and updates are with the consent of this girl’s parents. It’s almost as thilo they’re living a fantasy where when this young woman turns eighteen they’ll be reunited and live as one big happy family. They fail to grasp, Carly has her own family and life.
Who wants to bet that on Carly’s 18th bday, C+T are already bombarding her with messages asking her to “choose” them now that she can? They keep talking about Carly “making her decision” as if there will be a final showdown between C+T and B+T and the winner gets Carly as if she doesn’t have literally the rest of her life ahead of her. Sure Carly may appreciate how hard they tried to show her they care, but at the same time, she might be completely creeped out by their behavior. Neither of those scenarios require her being 18 – she’s old enough to understand now and no doubt has access to the internet already. They need to back off if they want any sort of relationship with her.
Carly is going to hear both sides.. and might not want anything to so with C and T because they are being total dicks to her actual parents.CanaT are nothing more than DNA TOthat girl.
I am sorry they lied to Tyler and cate and took advantage of two kids when saying it was an open adoption making it seem like they would have a different relationship with their child.
The fact that they have Teresa’s cell phone number shows that this adoption is WAY more open that most ever are and way more open that appropriate. Earlier on, all of their communication with them went through Dawn. Catelynn’s behavior shows that it definitely should have stayed that way because she has no concept of boundaries.
If you want to be mad at anyone for “lying” to C+T, blame Dawn! B+T are just people who wanted a baby bad enough to agree to something they were not wild about. Dawn is who pushed it so aggressively, not B+T. Bethany Christian Services is predatory as hell and that’s not the APs’ fault.
Brandon and Teresa weren’t the ones to come up with the adoption terms though, they went through an adoption agency and Cate and Tyler agreed by signing the SEMI- open adoption. Yes they were young but nevertheless, they chose to put up their child up for adoption because they claimed they wanted her to have a better life than what they could give her and that’s what Carly has. They have no right to demand more.
They are not young anymore and should understand by now that they’ve been given way more access than most bio parents ever get. Cell phone access, visits 12-13 years after the adoption, having Carly as their flower girl, being able to give her gifts/letter is more than most people get after an adoption. But still, nothing is enough for them. Because, they have a wildly unrealistic expectation that they be one big family. No one told that was the case and they’re way too old to believe that.
An open adoption doesn’t mean they get to do as they please, C&T have been over stepping for years now.
Carlys parents need to file a restraining order.. stopping them from posting all this stuff about their family online.. because Ty n Cate need to just stfu and focus on their own kids…
I agree at this point they’re just harrassing them and riling up their millions of fans.
First of all, this “you owe us because you adopted our kid” attitude is hella weird. From what I remember, this is a semi open adoption and B&T aren’t obligated to annual visits. That’s a grace that they extend to C&T. Occasional updates are great, but maybe Carly feels overwhelmed by them. Maybe Cate was blocked as a way to protect Carly’s peace. Maybe Carly asked her parents to help her create space. And this whole “I’m just sharing my feelings” thing, get a journal? Or a therapist? Maybe don’t put all your drama online? There are ways to advocate and speak on adoption, but this really ain’t it. I understand Cate is very obviously dealing with some big feelings right now, but it’s coming off as weird and almost like she’s stalking Carly. Carly is not Cate and Ty’s kid, legally speaking. Cate may have given birth to Carly, but she is B&Ts child. Cate needs to understand that this kind of behavior towards any other kid would be just as weird
I don’t mean to sound rude, but I don’t think Carly might want to see them when she’s 18. I mean how old is Carly now, 15? Okay, if and I mean HUGE if what if Carly has seen the embarrassment tweedle dee and tweedle dum are posting. I mean all the other Teen Moms have said their kids have seen the show (and I wouldn’t be surprised if some of them came across Reddit) and probably has read the drama that’s unfold. Does Cate and Tyler not understand that whatever they do it’s going to be on the internet for not only B and T will see, but also all their friends, family, Carly, and Carly’s friends. Maybe this is why, they are not only protecting Carly but if Carly sees all of this she might not want to acquainted with them right now. Kids are cruel and they’re just looking out for Carly and her best interest. Cate and Tyler need to stop cause they’re literally causing collateral damage at this rate.
Perhaps they’re tired of seeing caitlin and tyler shit all over them.And that’s why they’re blocked, I can’t blame fern and tree suffer blocking them.I think They should’ve blockedhem sooner.
And to caitlin and tyler, if you’re in therapy, why aren’t you working through this bullshit?
these two clowns 🤡 REALLY need to take the hint and back the eff off. no idea why they think their creepy persistence is in any way helping the situation.
also, at this point their bizarre fixation on carly is quite frankly insulting to their three girls. like, way to make them feel inadequate. 🙄
What a foolish little girl she is, never actually grew up. They act as though Carly was wrongfully taken from them and placed in foster care instead of they willfully gave up custody and placed her for adoption. B & T are the parents, the lack of respect and constant bashing, I wouldn’t be surprised if they filed a restraining order soon enough.
It’s like Cate expects Brandon and Teresa to owe her and Tyler for allowing them to adopt Carly. B&T don’t owe them anything outside of what the adoption agreement says.
Cate is constantly projecting her feelings onto Carly instead of taking any time to think about what she’s doing to her by throwing tantrums on social media.
Oh FFS, Cate. She’s been posting shady nonsense aimed at B&T for months (in addition to the years of bs). So, she’s got some balls sending these texts to Teresa as if nothing happened.
She’s so selfish and is only thinking about herself, as usual. She’s been given wayyy more access to Carly than most bio parents get. Carly was a flower girl at the wedding (where Butch violated the reasonable request to stay away from her), they gotten several visits, they have the adoptive parents’ cell phone numbers, etc. And all they had to do was keep the relationship private and respect boundaries. They couldn’t manage even that. They’re lucky it took 15 years for Teresa to finally block her.
B&T should have gone for a closed adoption.
C&T can’t grasp that even though they created Carly, she’s not the fourth sibling to their other kids. She belongs to B&T.
In this case, C&T were the egg and sperms and that can’t grasp that. B&T don’t owe them anything
This is going to sound pretty dumb and my apologies but could they still possibly try to get the adoption closed or not really. My apologies but I’m actually really curious.
My understanding is that an open adoption isn’t actually really a thing legally speaking so B&T could have cut off all communication years ago and C&T wouldn’t really have had any legal recourse.
There is no such thing as a legal “open” adoption in the US. All adoptions are legally closed, and it’s up to the adoptive parents’ discretion to allow visits. Even the agreement to send pictures, to let them see the kid, there is no way to enforce that. Once the adoption papers are signed, the adoptive parents are now put on the birth certificate and are the parents.
So pretty much that’s what B&T has done, but blocking them and not engaging. It’s doesn’t mean it will always be “closed”, but right now they need space.
I am a birth mom just like Cate. Mine also was a “open” adoption. That does not mean you leant your child to another family until adulthood. B and T are the parents and they chose what was best for their child. Legally, no adoption is open. I don’t think that the term should even be used because legally, it does not exist. I feel for them because they were too young to understand but a bit of common sense needs to come to play. Think about it, why would anyone sign up for a “open” adoption the way they describe. The risks to the child are far too great.
I am a birth mom as well, used the same agency as when, also did semi open adoption.
I would never in a million years treat my son’s parents this way. I have a great relationship with them but also BOUNDARIES. Cait you are not her mom, Teresa is!!! It’s pathetic, irresponsible, and quite frankly I’d block you too.
And what’s sad is that B & T would most likely be more open to Cate and Ty’s requests if they respected the boundaries they put in place for Carly. Cate sure throws the word “boundaries” around a lot when it comes to her relationships but has no comprehension when it comes to B & T and especially Carly. For years Ty has bad mouthed B & T. For a season or so Cate would try and real him in and explain if he continues all contact could be cut off. Ty’s super mature reply was always “I don’t care. I have my feelings. Let Carly contact me when she is 18!” and then Cate would cry and the episode would end. Now Cate AND Ty are going off the rail’s stomping their feet acting like this is owed to them.
They lied to them it’s obvious that they didn’t know what it would be.
No they did not. I also used Bethany Christian services, quite literally the same agency they did. They POUNDED into my head and the other girls that we did NOT have to do this, and we could stop going forward at anytime during the pregnancy. Once the baby is born, you had a short window to change your mind and that’s it. This was explained ad museum. In earlier seasons you can see it explained.
I never felt misheard, mislead, or anything else. They knew what they were doing and what they signed up for.
100%.
As sad as it is the C&T were misled into what they were really signing. Cate rejected an option for ongoing face-to-face with Carly. She just said annual visits at C&T’s request, and the adoptive parents’ discretion. Pictures 2x a year until 18.
I get why there is no such thing as a legal open adoption, it is hard to make that type of promise and then keep it for 18 years. Things change, 18 years is a long time to make a promise without knowing what will happen, it’s just not a safe or fair thing to do. I mean worse case, bio parents are a danger to the child.
Imagine someone promising to do an open adoption and they say you can see the child every month, and they get a job in another state, or they are in the military and they have to move. Or the bio family moves. How do you force the adoptive parents to continue visits? How do you force someone to spend money they might not have to get to them or vice versa?
Carly is 15, she has school and activities, a possible part time job, and Brandon works full time, how do you force them to make their schedules line up? They also have another child they adopted, It is easy for people to be like just let them see Carly, but the logistics alone are hard to figure out.
Plus Carly deals with her own issues after these visits, it’s emotionally really hard for her, it’s hard for her parents. She might need days after to process all those emotions, it’s really selfish of C&T to not understand that it’s not just them these visits affect, Carly is really affected by them.
We have no idea what kind of parents B&T are, but until I hear otherwise, they seem to be always looking out for Carly’s best interest, and at 15, she is the only one whose opinion matters, in my book. And honestly, at 15, if she wanted to be in touch, she probably could.
How has your experience been? I can’t imagine the emotions that come with that decision.
This is going to help Cate’s situation so much…..NOT. She just proved for them to block her. You know Carlie is probably reading this stuff anyways since it’s now out in the open. Cate needs to pause and think before she sends a message or post this stuff.
I’m surprised it took them this long to block her. I would have done it as soon as my wishes if not having Carly discussed on TV were not only shit on but then Cate & Ty have went on a rant both on TV and online against B & T. The fact that they act like they are doing it to somehow prove their love to Carly is both ridiculous and plain stupid. Cate & Ty are public figures. Them flapping their gums make Carly a public figure. I don’t think it would be difficult to find information on B & T or Carly on the internet. The internet is a scary place where kids are concerned and if I were B & T I would be worried for Carly’s safety.
The messages don’t read “How are you Carly? How’s school? Are you in any activities you enjoy?” It reads more like “Look at everything you are missing out on with your sisters and us as a family going on vacation. See how much fun we are having? Too bad you aren’t included”. Do they really think Carly needs a play by play of how hot the temperature is on their vacation? It isn’t even sent to Carly it’s sent to Teresa which reads to me like the ultimate screw you!
Side note if you are reading this Cate “Tersea” is not how you spell “Teresa” but you do you, boo.😳
So Cate shows some messages to “Teresa”, okay even if it was Teresa, what are we supposed to do with this??!
We have no idea what transpired before these messages, no idea what’s going on with B&T or Carly. This isn’t the win that Cate thinks it is.
If anything, it just looks like someone not engaging with you and you keep sending them messages. Okay, cool. So what?!?
I’m sorry Cate is struggling right now, she is cleary hurt and upset. But how does going online and bashing Carly’s parents, help Carly? How does doing the exact opposite of what B&T have been asking for years, to please stop posting about them online, to stop talking about Carly, to just let the relationship be private, help Carly?
We have no idea if B&T stopped talking to Cate because of Cate, because of Tyler, because of Carly, because of their own shit.
Carly is 15, if she wanted to she probably could reach out to Cate at this point, she hasn’t. Kids nowadays can get a friend to DM cate, can do it themselves, at school, at the library, at home. We have no idea why Carly doesn’t want a relationship with Cate.
I will say this, Carly is getting to the age where she processing that her parents placed her for adoption and still are together and have three children, Carly’s full blooded siblings in their custody. That’s a lot to process. Carly is old enough to watch TM, to see Tyler know what OF is. To see who April is, and to see C&T bash her parents for years.
Carly has a right to her privacy, and C&T aren’t looking out for her best interest, if they were they would stop this, go get therapy, and then continue to reach out privately. It’s been 15 years, so what’s 3 more, until Carly is 18, to get the final decision.
We might never know why Carly or her parents don’t want a relationship with C&T, and that’s not anyone’s business, including C&T. They don’t have to tell them why they don’t want a relationship with them. They are allowed to not talk to them.
I hope Cate just gets some therapy, this isn’t healthy or productive, and if anything is making it worse for Cate, worse for Carly, and worse for Carly’s parents.
Does anyone else think this is Carley and not C & T? I don’t know many 15 yo who don’t have a cell phone, and even fewer who don’t keep a few secrets from their parents. If Carley wanted to speak with them, why hasn’t Carley given them her #?
It was just a few weeks ago that Cate posted that text where she called Teresa … What did she call her? Was it a POS? “What we weave is what we wear” (John Trudell). It sounds like C&T are finally learning the power of words.
Yeah, Carly is 15, I’m sure she knows that C&T has been blasting her and her parents online. Even if her parents could stop a 15-year-old from finding out, you don’t think EVERY kid at school has told her that her birth parents are talking about her and her parents on the internet.
I’m sure if she really wanted to talk to Cate or if she really wanted these visits, she could easily find a way to get in touch with Cate. She hasn’t so its just so performative at this point. You told Carly, you want a relationship, oh and you hate her parents.
Cate has so much trauma from her childhood and abandonment issues, that she refuses to ALLOW to not want a relationship with her. Carly, doesn’t have to jump, when you say jump. She doesn’t have speak when you say speak, she’s not a pet.
Cate really needs help.
They better be careful before they get a restraining order on them… not kidding they’re acting crazy and psycho.
the “i can’t wait till carly turns 18” and “i think carly will go running back to them the minute she turns 18” comments made by the annoying fans are really weird
They are delusional. This will do nothing but harm Carly
Cait and Tyler had no one to read and explain what they were signing. First of all dawn Brandon Theresa you knew when it was not legal to do in the hospital that when your doing a adoption with 2 sixteen year old babies in a ally cause it wasnt leagal branden and Theresa are scammers who preyed on cait and Tyler her were family bs and Dawn you are the boss of this adoption you make the rules. She is disgrace Don’t get me started about MTV. Cait and Tyler get a lawyer and sue all of them
I agree with you, they had no one looking out for them, they should have listened to their parents Butch and April, who did not want them to give up Carly for adoption. Yes they were dysfunctional, but they were willing to help Cait and Ty raise Carly. It was painful watching them, and Cait really did not want to give her up either, and it is a decision that has haunted them these last 15 years. Which girl was not dysfunctional? All of them were, Amber, Farrah who had to have the 2 weirdest parents on planet Earth and Maci had Felon Ryan. Yet they all kept their babies and did not have to live with that type of regret at such a young age. All 4 girls were in the middle of toxic situations, they would have not have done any worse than the other 3 girls did. They should have never ever given her up for adoption, I know they both regret it deeply, how could they not, it is so sad, they are still together have Carly’s 3 full sisters, it is a horrible situation for all of them IMO.
If you ever find yourself typing out “they should’ve listened to Butch and April” that should be a red flag that you’ve gone off the rails somewhere in your thinking.
Butch and April were not willing to help with Carly. They said they were, because they wanted their kids to keep Carly, but they were both deep in active addiction.
They need to come to terms with and accept that they placed Carly up for adoption. There’s nothing they can do to change that now. They now have three little girls who deserve to have their parents’ full attention.
I agree they took advantage of two kids
Those down voting you clearly are trolls that didn’t see they were KIDS who got taken advantage of it regarding what an open adoption would be.
They are not kids any more. They are old enough to understand what adoption is and old enough to understand that if they lash out at Carly’s parents, it will harm their ability to maintain contact. This isn’t rocket science and it’s ridiculous to act like they’re still 16.
The reality is that these two are dysfunctional and have a gross misunderstanding of what a healthy relationship looks like. They should have the emotional maturity to shield Carly from this social media bs, but they don’t.
Your delusional
Cate and Ty have done nothing they promised Carly they’d do when they gave her up. Cate is glued to the couch gaining weight rapidly. While Ty is on only fans looking for a husband. Thank God B & T are protecting Carly from them. They’re a mess.
Cate begged Ty to go on Only Fans so she wouldn’t have to get a job.
I would have blocked Catelynn and Tyler YEARS ago and went full no contact. She’s been posting horrible stuff about Brandon and Teresa for months while also sending them messages like nothing happened. Straight up crazy behavior. Teresa needs to look into taking some sort of legal action because I can only see this getting worse.
It’s also so weird how Catelynn and Tyler are constantly talking about Carly like an object. She’s not a “gift” y’all “gave” Bradon and Teresa, she’s a human child that y’all were unable to care for, so all three parties (C+T, B+T, and Carly) benefited from the adoption. They act like Brandon and Teresa begged them to get pregnant in the first place. Not downing birth parents at all for making that hard decision to place a child with a more equipped family, but I’m so sick of these two acting like martyrs.
They also do this for a story line because they have none. C. get up off your ass, get a job something you never had, and leave B. and T. and C. alone. your right you idiot, YOU MEAN NOTHING TO THEM and 99% of the Teen Mom viewers.
Dumb whore has ZERO care of how her bullshit affects poor Carly. B&T are the best thing that could’ve happened to Carly. C&T should be kissing their feet instead of taking nude pics to post on OF & running their mouth. Cate, I hope you peruse this site because you are absolutely disgusting & despicable. Kiss Carly goodbye bc I have a feeling she is DONE with your shit. Glad B&T finally put that foot down.
AMEN to that.
I’d bet the family farm that Tyler and Cates willingness to over share every aspect of their life on the internet/tv is the reason they can’t see Carly. Social media and reality tv has become so toxic, I’m sure B and T are just trying to protect Carly from the negativity, as they should. Cate’s immature and playing victim and it’s not a good look for any of her children.
On Aug 4th, she posted (and deleted) a video about adoption which said “rot in hell”. Then August 27th she posted another video and commented/likened the post to being about Carly’s parents.
So twice in August she’s posted nasty things and likening them to her situation. Then is sending Teresa text messages over and over the same month like nothing happened.
Catelynn is setting up Carly’s parents to put up boundaries by her posts, then she uses the boundaries (which she necessated) to post harp on this family even more.
But it’s a smart play on her end to stay relevant and on MTV payroll…. Create a controversy and you create a market!!! It’s pretty effective to keep their waning popularity in the headlines.. and keep her paycheck coming.
Bingo! I don’t think it’s ever been about Carly…
What on earth took B and T so long to block Catelyn. If I were them I would go to court to block C from ever contacting them ever again.
I’m a birth mother and I agree. This is ridiculous. I’ve been so so careful over the years so that I have never been in a bad situation with my son’s parents and this is why. I’d block you too Cait and maybe get a restraining order.