Catelynn Lowell took to social media on Monday to reveal just how bad her relationship with her birth daughter Carly’s adoptive parents, Brandon and Teresa Davis, has become.
In a rant posted to Instagram Stories, the Teen Mom star revealed that Carly’s mom Teresa has “blocked” her, seemingly due to Catelynn sending too many updates and text messages to Carly.
Catelynn— who along with her husband Tyler Baltierra placed Carly for adoption immediately after her 2009 birth — claimed that it was unfair of Teresa to shut her out of Carly’s life.
“Adoption is crazy,” Cate wrote. “I’m blocked all because of me sending updates and pictures of her sisters…how is that fair for Carly and her siblings? It’s sad for sure…But, makes me sad for the kids… When you’re a bio mom you have no say… no control…all I can do is show Carly in the future how much I tried and continued to do so…she can make the decision herself to understand who shut who out.”
Catelynn has spoken out against Brandon and Teresa several times over the last few months, including recently, when she defended her decision to go public with the problems she’s been having with Carly’s parents. During that rant, Catelynn claimed she was posting things publicly because “one day, Carly will be around to see our side.”
In May, both Catelynn and Tyler shared their frustrations after finding out that they would not be getting their annual visit with Carly this year due to her parents not agreeing to it.
Cate told followers on Monday that she was “literally ignored for months” and then– presumably, quite recently– blocked by Carly’s parents.
In an effort to back up her claims, Cate posted a screen recording of multiple text messages she allegedly sent to Teresa between July 1 and September 8 without any reply.
These texts consisted of photos, videos and updates from her family, as well as messages to Carly. The updates were sometimes as frequent as every two days, according to the messages posted by Catelynn.
Cate later followed up the text message video with more comments on the situation, insisting that she gave Brandon and Teresa one of the “biggest gifts ever” when she placed Carly with them. She also insisted that she “will not let them take away [her] voice.”
“ … I post so that hopefully Carly will see it and see I have always tried,” she wrote.
Catelynn added that she is hurt that, in her opinion, Brandon and Teresa don’t care about her, and only associated with her so that she would give them Carly.
“To know I mean nothing to the [adoptive parents] but just a womb to give a child hurts my heart…I’m a person with feelings, the children I’m parenting have feelings… Carly has feelings …” she wrote.
“A child being involved with extra people that only love and support them,” she continued. “How is that threatening? I’ll never understand … .”
Cate then accused Brandon and Teresa of feeling “scared/threatened” due to Carly asking questions about seeing Cate and Tyler more often. She also accused Brandon and Teresa of keeping her, Tyler and their children distant from Carly. (Tyler and Cate share three other daughters– Nova, Vaeda and Rya– who have attended past visits with Carly.)
“ … I will ALWAYS support Carly loving her parents!” Cate insisted. “They love her and raised her! But the fact that they keep us distant and Carly’s siblings distant does not help Carly…anyone would know that if they were adoptee informed.”
Cate’s latest rant garnered a lot of feedback on social media, with some ‘Teen Mom’ fans calling her actions “a bit self-centered.” Some even voiced that Brandon and Teresa may not be sharing Cate’s updates with Carly as a way to protect Carly from getting hurt.
“ … Ever think [Carly] feels left out? Since you and your girls get to do all these fun things that she never will get to experience with you,” one fan commented on Cate’s latest post. “ … Maybe sending pictures of how much fun you guys are having could be hurtful to a teenager who doesn’t understand why she was not there with her birth mom. Maybe see a different perspective on how everything is affecting her and her family.”
Another person claimed Cate’s behavior– specifically her decision to go public with the conflict with Carly’s parents– was a form of “emotional abuse and harassment.”
“Just the fact that you even put it on social media that they ‘blocked’ you is the reason you SHOULD be blocked,” the person added, calling Cate’s behavior “disgraceful.”
Naturally, Cate also had a message to those accusing her of putting Carly’s parents “on blast,” telling followers she’s only sharing her feelings and isn’t “calling [Brandon and Teresa] any hurtful names or anything.”
“ … as bio parents we are taught to just take what’s given to us and that we should feel ‘lucky’ but if anything goes wrong, we need to shut up and be quiet,” she wrote. “OK I’m done for today.”
Tyler has yet to address Catelynn’s latest posts.
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My knee-jerk reaction is that (like the haphazard “scrapbook”) they didn’t keep any form of semi-regular appropriate, rational communication, such as birthday and Christmas gifts. Once they wanted to start the narrative of being shut out, they then started bombarding B&T, to make it appear as though they have always been attempting to make appropriate contacts.
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Cate will always be a big ball of trash. Did it ever cross their minds that maybe after onlyfans and all of the insistence on sharing content about the siblings with Carly, that maybe Carly doesn’t care or even care to want to know them or their children or maybe being that the adoptive parents are very rich, Carly herself may see them as trashy or not up to par with where her life it at with her real parents? Her bio parents are NOT her real parents. To try and force her “sisters” onto her, just because she showed interest at some point years ago, does not mean she is still interested. Brandon and Theresa don’t owe a thing to Tyler and cate. If they “cared” so much about Carly, they would’ve done more with their lives than continue to pop out children like a Pez dispenser. And if they care SOOO much about their personal children who live WITH them, they wouldn’t be making their 3 lives alllllll about Carly, the daughter THEY GAVE AWAY, for someone else to raise, only to constantly be trying to insert themselves and their 3 children into Carly Brandon and Theresa’s life. They came from white trash, and although they’ve moved into a house, they will always be white trash. Cate has done nothing with her life, but she gave up he daughter to have a chance at making a better life. Only to immediately begin popping kids out, lazing around watching Netflix all day, while Tyler has resorted to ONLYFANS. Wow. I’m sure Carly is SO proud of her biological father, selling his body on the internet for money.
Do you understand what open adoption means? My neice has adopted to children that were newborns. One bio parent wanted open adoption and it has been a wonderful expirence for both familys.The bio family from the 2nd child did not want it open.Here is the thing I was at the house reading adoption magazine and guess who was on the cover( Brandon ,Theresa ,Carly and a little boy they also adopted. So much for privacy. They told there story also it was said the birth parents were from teen mom program so how the heck is that private? Carly and Vada look like they came from the same mold. I also watched the day Cate and Tyler gave her up for adoption. They were super young and all party’s agreed to an open adoption. They agreed to open adoption then they close it.Id be upset if I was cate also. They should have had lawyers back then to tell them what could happen ,that they could get the baby and decide to have no contact with the bio parents which is exactly what they did.
They sure do. I was noticing that. I don’t think Carly and Nova look that much alike. Nova has a longer face. Carly and Vaeda have heart shaped faces like Caitlyn. Vaeda has slightly darker hair.
I wonder if their decision to go through with the adoption would have been different if they didn’t have the idea in the back of their heads that they were going to fill the position of “the couple that gave their child up for adoption” spot when 16 and pregnant was airing in the first season.
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It has always bothered me how C&T act as if they have some sort of claim on Carly just because they gave birth to her.
You gave her up for adoption, stop acting as if you have joint custody!
Leave that family alone, just stop harassing them and focus on your own family Cait
Catelynn is being reactive and impulsive based on HER feelings without considering that B&T are doing what that feel is best their family and for Carly as her parents and not making emotional decisions based on Catelynn and Tyler’s family. That’s an excessive amount of communication without any thought of the impact and intrusion it might have on the adoptive family’s sense of normalcy and stability. A summary update once every 6 months is more reasonable than this every few days life diary she’s doing that is a constant reminder of what is an emotional trauma for Carly and likely something she still doesn’t fully understand or know how to feel about, even at 15. C & T are not putting Carly above themselves and their own feelings of regret.
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She’s not sad for the kids at all. She’s sad B & T aren’t playing into her delusions that she’s Carly’s mom. Leave that poor girl and her poor parents alone!!
Catelynn is physically morphing into her mom. I can’t unsee it.
Fat April
This is escalating to a point that is so messed up.
Focus on the 3 daughters you have Cate.
I’ll get downvoted for this initial comment, and that’s totally okay, but I also agree that C&T were taken advantage of BY Dawn and that Cate allowed Tyler to make/influence a decision she could’ve easily changed. Essentially, she chose Tyler over Carly at the time. I also think though, too, that Cate knew Carly would have a better life with Brandon and Teresa and in that sense, she did make a selfless decision. I don’t know that I could have done that. They were young, impressionable kids, with no real healthy influences. Now, with all that said, when you step back and look at this from B&T’s view, they also didn’t forsee the inappropriate ways that T & C would act in the future… I could absolutely see why they wouldn’t exactly be fostering communication and possible influencing of Carly. The bottom line is though, that if Cate and Tyler want ANY relationship with Carly, they should just do as asked- until she is 18. At that point Carly is an adult and can get a restraining order against them, or, she can have a relationship with them. Her choice. If I were a birth mom and desperately wanted a relationship with my child, as Cate says she does, I would likely do whatever was asked of me by the adoptive parents though FOR Carly’s sake. This is about Carly- NO one else and I know if it were me, I’d not be behaving the way C&T behave, and I would also do ANYTHING to hold onto any sort of relationship with my child- even if it meant doing things I didn’t want to do. Cate should also be writing her feelings in a journal and/or processing these feelings with a Therapist, not posting them online. Random strangers on the internet are just going to give this attention- they can’t help her with her main goal of having any type of relationship with her daughter, and all this is doing is hurting her chances in helping her cause. Period.
I think Cate has a deep, deep sense of regret, but she made a choice and she needs to accept it. She and Ty have been blessed with years of contact. It’s more than most get. Cate is bordering on stalking at this point; her indignation that B&T won’t permit unfettered access to *their* child is ridiculous. I think B&T were mislead about how this adoption would go, just as much as C&T were. Imagine you adopt a child and have to deal with the bio parents demanding access to that child and when you don’t, they blast your business all over social media. And since they’re “celebrities”, millions of people see it. I have a friend that was adopted as a child. Her bio father notified the adoption agency that he would be open to getting in touch with my friend. She eventually did request the contact info from the agency and reached out. After a few visits and communication, what she found was that her bio father was over the top with his desire to have a relationship with her. To the point it was off-putting to her and she cut off contact. The same may happen or has happened with Carly. She may have expressed that desire to B&T and that is why the visits and updates have stopped. Either way, Cate needs to seek more therapy.
Those “updates” seem more like “look what you’re missing out on”. They’re harassing B&T at this point, and I think B&T need to take legal action.
“I’m blocked all because of me sending updates and pictures of her sisters…how is that fair“
Catelynn, any person with a sliver of common sense or emotional intelligence knows that this is not the whole story. Once again you victimized yourself. Does it reallllllly make sense that you are blocked bc u send pics of your kids? No, it doesn’t. If that’s what happened and you can prove it with screenshots, that Teresa tells you she is blocking you bc you sent too many photos of your kids, we will believe it.
But of course everyone knows that is not true lol
All those messages and not one asking Carly how she is, what she’s doing, what she’s in to. Just “me me me, us us us”. Gee, I wonder why they blocked her.
If you yourself create boundaries and expect others to respect them, then you should be doing the same.
Cate has a good heart, but I think sometimes she forgets that boundaries arent just for those who take off for months in the Arizona desert.
It’s becoming closer to Carly’s 18th birthday, and once she realizes the pressure is off and you give her a chance to miss you all, it will happen. No one likes to feel forced into doing something.
She is also not that bright. Tyler as well. Emotionally arrested development as a teen, similar to Butch. They act as if the adoptive parents are just disrespectful long term babysitters or easygoing kidnappers. They gave her up and should give her her privacy and stop making this a public conversation.
This is just performative. They have been using Carly for clout and publicity for that child’s entire life. It’s just gross.
If they wanted to have an actual relationship, they’d quietly and privately send Christmas and birthday presents and the occasional letter. Kim does that and Tyler admitted that he and Cate do not. And that’s because they’re only interested in the parts that get them publicity like televised visits, social media posts, and stirring up drama. If they actually have a d@mn about seeing Carly, they’d stop mentioning her name and her family on the show and social media. Period. The fact that they flat out refuse to do that says it all.
I agree that it’s 100% performative. C & T have also made millions out of making their adoption “trauma” public and talking about Carly in practically every episode that MTV has aired. They wouldn’t have a storyline nor a job if it wasn’t for Carly and they won’t take a step back and evaluate the hurt and damage they have done to Carly. They refuse to take responsibility for their actions and lack of maturity.
I couldn’t help but notice that out of all those messages not once did Cate ask Carly how she is or what she’s doing or anything at all. Sending “updates” isn’t having a conversation or forming a relationship. To me this looks like Cate attempting show Carly all the things she’s missing out on so she’ll want to visit them, which is crazy manipulative and hurtful to Carly. She is making everything worse by posting it all over social media. If she wants Carly to know their side than just quietly save the screenshots and show her privately when she’s older like a normal person.
Couldn’t agree more. It seems like stalking behavior
Carly is 15, if she wanted to contact them, she would. She has access to the internet, she has friends, she goes to school. IT’S CARLY THE ONE THAT DOESN’T WANT TO TALK TO YOU, NOT HER PARENTS. TAKE A HINT!!
If I was Theresa I would block her too, she’s beyond obnoxious and disrespectful and she’s always been
Cancel catelynn & ty
Cancel amber f***mtv
Cate choose to get rid of Carly so Ty wouldn’t leave her. Now she’s a obese, jobless, loser who has nothing to do all day except harass B&T about a decision she made to keep a man who likes men.
WTH. She chose to give her a life she thought would be better. She was young and made a huge sacrifice not understanding the outcome with an emphasis on understanding. At that age emotions are not fully formed. Come on.
If Carly wanted to know about their lives she can look online. Those two don’t keep anything private!
Yes, you mean nothing to them because you really are nothing to them. You are a stranger. A stranger who do porn, show awful online behavior and is trying to have a say in their life. I promise you would not like it if a stranger wanted to take part in your daughters life or saw themselves as someone you have to take into consideration – especially if you did not like the stranger in question.
Sometimes I wonder if it is Cates abandonment issues talking. She seems to want Teresa to like her and be like an extra mom or something.
Catelynn has changed so much since the early seasons of the show. She was such a sweetheart and was a very level headed young lady. It’s almost like the older she gets, the more immature and selfish she gets. Very disappointing.
I can’t say I blame the adoptive mother. I understand they made a difficult decision giving the baby up for adoption but I can’t condone what they’re doing to this child. Maybe if they weren’t so pushy and they didn’t bad mouth the adopted parents every chance they get, things would be different. But as it stands the adoption was open but their parental rights were terminated. Visits and updates are with the consent of this girl’s parents. It’s almost as thilo they’re living a fantasy where when this young woman turns eighteen they’ll be reunited and live as one big happy family. They fail to grasp, Carly has her own family and life.
Who wants to bet that on Carly’s 18th bday, C+T are already bombarding her with messages asking her to “choose” them now that she can? They keep talking about Carly “making her decision” as if there will be a final showdown between C+T and B+T and the winner gets Carly as if she doesn’t have literally the rest of her life ahead of her. Sure Carly may appreciate how hard they tried to show her they care, but at the same time, she might be completely creeped out by their behavior. Neither of those scenarios require her being 18 – she’s old enough to understand now and no doubt has access to the internet already. They need to back off if they want any sort of relationship with her.
Carly is going to hear both sides.. and might not want anything to so with C and T because they are being total dicks to her actual parents.CanaT are nothing more than DNA TOthat girl.