“90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days” Star Tim Malcolm Explains His Decision to Abstain from Sex, Addresses Rumors About Him Being Transgender & More

“Who’s ready to talk about my sex life… or lack thereof?”

Tim Malcolm may be abstaining from sex, but luckily he’s not abstaining from opening up about his personal life and this season of 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days. 

During an event in Los Angeles this week, the TLC star spoke with ET about everything from the rumors regarding his sexuality and his decision to not have sex with Jeniffer Taranoza, to the accusations that he is transgender.

Check out some of the interview highlights below! 

On Jeniffer (and fans) accusing him of being gay for not having sex: 

“Well, I mean, Jennifer’s not the only one who has said that, let’s be honest,” Tim admitted. “There’s a lot of people that have speculated that there’s all kinds of issues going on, but what I like to remind people is it’s an invigorating day as a man when you wake up and you’re no longer controlled by your penis.” 


Tim went on to explain that at almost 40 years old, he wants to be in love before he gets it on with a woman. Although he believes sex to be an “important part of love” he also feels that “it’s not everything like it used to be.”

Tim also said his biggest goal is to build a foundation that will last because he doesn’t want to be divorced. 

“I’ve waited this long to get married—- never been married,” he explained. “I think that’s strange that society thinks that if a man says no [to sex] then he’s gay, but if a woman says no, it’s fine, but it’s like the double standard that society has. I just kind of laugh about it.

“The gay thing was kind of out of left field for me,” he added.

On the accusations that he was actually born a woman:

“I do have some feminine traits…” Tim admitted. “But that’s laughable to me.”


Tim said he saw online fans of the show posting screenshots taken during the scene in which Tim and Jeniffer are in the hot tub.

“[They were] looking for scars from where I had my ‘breasts removed,'” Tim said. “So, again, it comes with the territory. You’re going to have to put up with people who come up with these outlandish ideas. But I think it’s just odd for a lot of women to see a man who is not woo’d by a beautiful woman. That is something that’s unique about me.”

He continued to dispute claims that he has transitioned.

“I’m not transgender,” he said. “I think it’s cool for the people that want to do that, if that’s what you want to do with your life but, that’s not me.”

“I will not be controlled by my penis!”

On the whole “90 Day” experience:

“ … I don’t think I was quite prepared for how passionate people are about this show and obviously the show has just gotten so big,” he said. “ … It’s being on reality TV. You’re kind of thrown to the public limelight overnight. It’s a big adjustment that you have to make quickly, but other than that, I’ve just been kind of rollin’ with it.” 

On his willingness to be vulnerable on-camera and the challenges that come with it: 

“There’s always going to be negativity when you’re on TV, people see things the way they want to see it, so I get frustrated sometimes by the way that some people interpret things,” Tim said. “ … Obviously, for time constraints, you’re not able to see the whole story all the way.” 

Despite his frustration, Tim said he’s “thrilled that people are that passionate about the show.” 

On what he would have done differently this season: 

Tim said while there’s things that make him “cringe” to have to relive on screen, his goal was to be himself and he believes that was accomplished. 

“What you see is me,” he said. “I may be eccentric, I may be weirder than some guys that are out there, but that’s me.”  

Watch Tim’s full interview below!

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(Photos: TLC; Instagram; YouTube) 

24 Responses

  1. I absolutely love Tim I think he’s so funny and he’s very cute he makes me laugh I wish him and Veronica would get back together they seemed so perfect for each other. I think he’s got a darling personality

  2. What gets me is he’s saying he wanted to abstain from sex but that’s not what he’s been saying on the show. He even tells Jen that they have to do the deed before he leaves and he only had that one night left,and of course no sex again. He just makes excuses to why there was no sex when he’s on the show and now he says he was wanting to abstain from sex. That’s just B.S. because he said he wanted to do the deed with Jen. and in his diary on the show he talked about how he wanted to do it but he just was so tired he dropped the ball. I think he just has a itty bitty tiny weenie and he’s scared to show it to Jen he’s worried he can’t satisfy her. There is just something up with Tim either his weenie is tiny or it just don’t work at all, maybe he had a accident and it don’t work now. I think Veronica knows hes small or it don’t work and thats why she wants to know if Tim and Jen have done the deed. she even asked the question in a way, like there is more to the story…. Maybe Tim is another tricky Ricky he’s on the show to promote his business and he is already in a committed relationship and if he sleeps with Jen the other girl will find out. Maybe Tim is playing Jen and TLC and he’s just doing this to get business and fame… whatever it is I know one thing Tim is one weird dude….

  3. I don’t know what’s stranger, not hooking up with your hot girlfriend who was practically begging for it or giving your girlfriend a ring you gave another girl. I think the underlying issue is he suffers from extremely low self esteem. The jealousy he creates by keeping his ex involved in his life is some sort of strange way for him to feel wanted. And maybe his low self esteem is related to performance issues in the bedroom, which made it incapable of him to have sex. He looked so defeated on camera that one morning explaining how it didn’t happen the night before. It didn’t seem like he went to Brazil planning to abstain from sex. And the guy dresses like he’s a teenager and he needs a new hairstyle- the shaved sides is not helping the head situation.

  4. The thing is, he didn’t tell Jeniffer any of that, at least not on screen. She very well believed each night they may get it on, only for him to come up with an excuse or conveniently fall asleep (no day sex?). He is definitely suppressing something about himself, and I think we all know what it is…

  5. sorry he looks like he transitioned ad the fact he no only wouldn’t sleep with her he wasn’t very interested in even kissing her

  6. People dont think hes transgender because he didnt have sex.

    People…at least i think that because he is built like a 12 year old girl

  7. Geez, some of y’all are so mean. He’s being open and honest and that’s great. I don’t think people should be making comments like he’s gay or he’s transgender when he’s clearly denied both. Just leave the guy alone! Whatever you want to say about them as PEOPLE, don’t let that turn into you being a mean person and shaming someone’s PHYSICAL appearance.

  8. Tim is for sure odd looking, he kind of reminds me of a super blow pop! Extremely large head on a very thin petite frame. However, Jeniffer reminds me of a piranha plant or a praying mantis consuming all that’s around her! I have to say if anyone called me a pussy or threw a drink in my face, date over. Not a fan of Tim but I’m most definitely not a fan of Jeniffer

    1. I don’t get why people can’t understand that most guys would be extremely afraid to sleep with someone who constantly emasculates them. He’s scared for good reason. He shouldn’t have to talk about some transgender or gay accusations either.

      1. She’s verbally abusive to say the least. It’s not funny or cute but no one ever mentions that. It was sad to watch. She’s calling him names, throwing a drink in his face, embarrassing him in front of her dad. What was so sad though was – he took the abuse. He didn’t appear to even be shocked by it. I kind of feel bad for him. I hope he doesn’t stay with her. If she can act like that on camera God only knows what she’s like off camera in real life.

  9. [* Shield plugin marked this comment as “Trash”. Reason: Failed Bot Test (expired) *]
    Him not having sex with her is not all that made him seem gay…

  10. “There’s a lot of people that have speculated that there’s all kinds of issues going on, but what I like to remind people is it’s an invigorating day as a man when you wake up and you’re no longer controlled by your penis.”

    Wait what?

    1. I’ve heard Jimmy Neutron, but Ed Munster hits the nail on the head ??? I knew he looked like somebody, I just couldn’t put my finger on it ?

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