‘Counting On’ Season 10 Episode 4 Recap: Pointless Parties & Blessing Announcements in a Bowl

Us, attempting to force down another hour with the Duggars…

We’re already four episodes into the latest season of Counting On, proving that there’s some truth to the old adage, “Time Flies When You’re Shooting Blessings Out of Your Hoo-Ha Every 13 Months.”

Without further ado (and before we change our minds), let’s dive into this week’s episode!

Our first stop is Kendra and Joe‘s house on the outskirts of the Duggar Compound. Kendra is at home with baby Garrett, living out her Fundie fantasy: whipping up some dinner for her husband and tending to a baby. She’s about to be in the Fundie version of “High Cotton,” though, because she’s about to announce that she’s….wait for it… PREGNANT EXPECTING!

It hasn’t been that long since Kendra was expelling The Spawn of Joe from her Fetus Factory, but she’s already “with blessing” again! Kendra says she found out she was expecting because she was feeling funny and just happened to have a spare pregnancy test lying around because… Duggar…

When you achieve your one and only purpose in life…

“I only had like one test left in the drawer so I just went ahead and took it,” Kendra tells us. (Looks like Michelle‘s gonna need to do Costco run to stock up on Clear Blue Easys…and those weird pilgrim tight things she insists on wearing in every episode.)

Anyway, Kendra has come up with a “fun” (i.e. kind of weird) way to let Joe know that she’s knocked up. She has crafted a “Baby Coming Soon” bowl which she plans to use to reveal the baby news. 

Kendra has run into a little problem with her pregnancy reveal plan, though. 

“Whenever Joe enjoys a meal, he’ll a lot of time lick the plate clean.”


To avoid poisoning her sperminator via toxic glue, Kendra has to use edible glue to attach the “Baby coming soon” message to Joe’s feed bowl. 

We’d like to suggest another alternative: Etiquette Classes Coming Soon. I mean…WTF Joe?!

Imagine having to come up with a creative way to announce your pregnancy approximately once every year and a half…

Craft time with Kendra is momentarily interrupted when Garrett s**ts himself in the kitchen. (That was probably his reaction to learning that his father— the man expected to provide for him— still licks his plate clean like a dog. I don’t blame you, Garrett! That would scare the crap out of me too!)

After a quick cleanup, Kendra — who is only 20 years old, let us remind you — does some reflecting on her life.

“Sometimes I have these moments where I’m just like, ‘Wow, I’m really an adult and a mom,’ and it’s just crazy because I still feel like I’m young,” she says. 

“Um…maybe that’s because you’re barely old enough to vote?”

After she’s done doling out the wisdom she’s acquired in her “old age,” Kendra calls Joe and asks if he can leave the car lot early today because dinner will be ready sooner than she expected. Joe tells her it shouldn’t be a problem, further proving our belief that this family — all 193 of them — are completely out of touch with the real world. 

“No problem, let me just ask my boss. Oh wait… “

Also “expecting” are Jessa and Ben. We go to their house, where Jessa is in total “nesting mode” and decides she wants to build a deck onto her house before her baby arrives. (And, of course, this actually means she wants Jana and whichever random brothers she can round up to build it.)

Before the project kicks off, Jim Bob and Michelle regale us on the days they lived in a 900 square-foot home with five kids. Ben (because nothing gets past him) tells Jessa if her family lived in a house that small at the size they are now, things would be quite chaotic. 

“The bathroom would be in constant use,” he says. “You’d have to start maybe two days out just to get everybody showered for church on Sunday.” 

“That’s like, a lot of hours. More than my fingers and toes!”

Meanwhile, a random assortment of Duggar boys are just hacking off the side of Jessa and Ben’s house. Jason is heading up the project, while Jed and Justin (what…there’s a Justin?) are assisting. Jessa, as per usual, is just bossing everyone around and trying to keep Ben from playing with the power tools.

We’re probably about 25 minutes away from someone calling Jana to come over and fix whatever mess they’ve all created. Of course, she’ll have to make lunch for the kids, paint the kitchen and iron Jim Bob’s tighty whities before she’ll be able to come over.

Back at Joe and Kendra’s house, it’s almost plate-lickin’ time! Kendra puts the finishing touches on dinner while trying her best to avoid a full-blown panic attack before announcing the baby news to Joe. Joe arrives home, gets promptly coughed all over by “Gar-Bear” and then sits down to shovel down his meal.

After dinner, Kendra gets the ice cream ready to serve, but not before throwing a big scoop of it onto the floor. 

If this were Jill, she would’ve just scooped it off the floor, served it like nothing happened and wrote about the “delicious dirt dessert” on her blog.

After regaining her composure, Kendra manages to get the “great treat,” as she puts it, into the bowls and onto the table. She then stares at Joe as he stuffs his face. 

Joe eventually makes his way to the bottom of the bowl and, at first, mistakes the sticker for a twig or a piece of grass. Kendra giggles like a hyena on speed until he realizes that it is not a twig, but a sticker that says “Baby Coming Soon.”

Joe is moderately excited to find out that Kendra is five weeks pregnant. As for Kendra, she’s finally able to relax her nerves from all of the excitement. Until she does it all over again next year, of course. What a “great treat” this whole scene was.

“I’m gonna celebrate by licking this dish extra clean tonight!”

We then check in with Jinger, the most normal of the Duggar bunch, as she and Felicity hit up a stroll-and-stride fitness class for moms. While Jinger is back on her skirted-workout ensemble kick, we have to give her props for being willing to bust out some side kicks and squats among the common people — even the “sinners” in their running shorts! 

We’d be willing to bet two scoops of Kendra’s floor ice cream that Jim Bob and Michelle fast-forwarded through this scene, all while Jimmy B kept screaming, “NIKE! NIKE!” 

The producers then cut to the Duggar kids to ask what sort of things they’ve given up since popping out some blessings. Kendra says she misses going outside, which is possibly the most depressing answer in the world.

Jessa says she’s given up sleep, but she assures the producers that she and Ben haven’t had to sacrifice any “romantic time.” I mean…those blessings ain’t gonna make themselves, guys…

“Stop saying ‘LEGOS’ under your breath Ben, I can totally hear you.”

Jessa goes on to explain that she and Ben opt for “we time” instead of “me time,” although she says they do get a little “me time” when they have to go the bathroom. Well if that isn’t a glowing review for parenthood, we don’t know what is. 

Later on, the Duggar boys put the finishing touches on Jessa and Ben’s patio while the couple take Henry to the doctor regarding his delayed speech. While they’re away, the Duggar boys team up to babysit Spurgeon. While at Henry’s appointment, Jessa and Ben learn that he isn’t suffering from any hearing loss. They are relieved when the doctor instead advises that Henry see a speech pathologist.

Unfortunately, the Duggar boys aren’t having as good of luck back at the house, as Spurgeon is wreaking havoc inside, sneaking ice cream sandwiches out of the freezer while simultaneously, um… “spurging” in his diaper.

Jed (or Jer or…one of them, I don’t know…) realizes that it would be easier to babysit The Spurge if they actually kept him near them instead of in the house by himself, so they bring him out…by the power tools…to wander around. 

“OK, they’re gone! One of you take me down to the County Clerk’s office so I can file paperwork to change my name!” 

Jed tells Spruge that he’ll have to sit in his crappy diaper until his mother comes home. (Changing diapers is women’s work, don’t ya know?) 

That night, Jana (who else?) comes to Jessa and Ben’s house to help set up for the couple’s gender guessing party. “Bessa” isn’t like a regular couple, guys; they’re a cool couple, so they don’t do gender reveal parties, they do gender guessing parties. 

Basically, the whole Dug Clan comes over, crowds around Jessa and asks her pregnancy-related questions and then they guess if they think she’s having a boy or a girl. Then Jessa smugly gets to tell them that she’s not telling. It’s literally Heaven on Earth for Jessa.

“Jessa says I can’t tell anyone if they baby is a boy or a girl, and that if I do, she’s going to put me in time out.”

Vans of Duggars are soon brought into the cramped home, piling onto chairs (and spouse’s laps) as they prepare to throw some old wives tales at Jessa in order to make their guesses as to what they think she and Ben are having. 

Jana, is this your idea of hell on earth?

Eventually they all make their guesses, only to find out that Jessa and Ben aren’t revealing the gender of their baby until it’s born. That’s right Duggars! You all drove your oversized vehicles over here and shoved yourselves into this small house to play games focused on Jessa and her unborn baby for absolutely no reason at all. 

Abbie’s face during this entire scene made it worth watching. She’s already so over the Duggars’ baby-themed hijinks…

In an effort to save this ridiculous gathering (and episode), Joe and Kendra steal the spotlight announce that they’re expecting another blessing. Not shown: Jessa’s head exploding because all the attention has now gone from her to “Jendra.”

“Joe…I’m scared…”

On the next episode of ‘Counting On’ Jinger and Jeremy hunt for apartments in Los Angeles, the Duggars go camping and yet another pregnancy announcement is made.


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(Photos: TLC) 


  1. It’s always so important to remember that we all come from different backgrounds, beliefs, experiences, trials and tribulations. No one is perfect and no one has cornered the market on truth. Although I may not agree with every person’s choices and decisions, I respect the fact that we live in a country that allows us the freedom to live and love in ways that are most meaningful for us. We may not always understand someone else’s beliefs or lifestyle but at the very least we can demonstrate objectivity and common courtesy. I find their lives to be fascinating. Not because I personally ascribe to live in the ways that they do but because of the love that the share and their commitment to the God they serve. We don’t have to belittle the things that we may not ascribe to personally. The Duggars aren’t heinous people. They just choose to live their lives differently than others. But ultimately isn’t that what we all do? I don’t think anyone would appreciate reading an article by someone they didn’t know that makes a mockery of their beliefs and their lifestyle. Without question, we have the freedom to write whatever we want in this country. It’s a choice. We can use our words to uplift, to inspire, to encourage, to support, and to motivate others to be better people. Or not. Consider your own legacy. Your words are a reflection of who you are. Consider whether or not you want your writing/journalism career and your slate of work to be associated with tearing other people down because of their beliefs. Because once you put it out there you can’t distance yourself from it. Just something to consider.

    1. First off, all sass aside (because that’s what “The Ashley” does and we love “The Ashley” for it), if their lives weren’t fascinating, especially to people that don’t share the same beliefs and lifestyles as they do, the Duggars’ TV legacy wouldn’t have gone on for as long as it has. “The Ashley” has a way of shedding a realistic light on “Reality TV”. From what I’ve seen, so much of their satire AND their distaste for certain things is pulled from what they’ve learned and seen over YEARS of watching what these people do/say/support/discourage on a regular basis, e.g. Jana having to come save the day constantly because she’s chosen not to get married and have children at a young age. And “The Ashley” uplifts/encourages/supports Jana for staying true to herself while the Duggars treat her as their “underdog”.
      In short, “The Ashley” includes pangs of actual reality while jesting at “reality TV” and their writers have great talent, unlike banking off a network by having as many babies as possible on TV.

  2. The boys just leaving Spurge in a poop diaper because they couldn’t be bothered to change him was really upsetting. Their rigid idea of gender roles is appalling. You don’t just leave a kid to stew in feces because it’s “women’s work” or “yucky”. Put your bid kid pants on and deal with it.

  3. Now granted I just skimmed through this but I can tell you that this was in distaste and just tells how ignorant and ugly you are

    1. Try reading it instead of skimming it then. Then READ re-caps of other shows, and see that they’re just the same when it comes to jest and snark, which is what this site is all about, and why so many people love it.

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