Weeks after confronting and reconciling with her estranged dad, Kail Lowry says she’s now on a mission to find her long-lost mother, Suzi.
As The Ashley previously reported, the former Teen Mom 2 star flew to Texas last month to speak to her father— whom she had only met once in her life previously— about his absence in her life. Ray, who is now on hospice due to him having stage 4 chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD), answered Kail’s questions and left her happy that she went to see him. He also revealed that Kail’s mom Suzi had been lying to her for most of her life regarding him and things that happened in the past.
“I have come to the conclusion that Suzi hates me,” Kail said. “Suzi has always hated me. Suzi resents me,” Kail said.
After hearing her father’s side of things, Kail stated on the most-recent episode of her Coffee Convos podcast that she is now determined to come face-to-face with her estranged mother.
“We have to find Suzi,” she told her co-host Lindsie Chrisley. “…it feels like [I’ve had] misplaced anger my whole life. Like, everyone was talking about what a deadbeat he was. No s**t he was a deadbeat because y’all forced him to be a deadbeat! I look at the situation so much differently now.”
Kail learned that her father had tried to send her gifts when she was a child but they were returned to him. He also was hung up on by Suzi’s parents when he tried to contact them.
“He drove— 36 hours from Texas to Pennsylvania— for the [custody] court dates to try to see me for about two years,” she added.
Kail said that Suzi had also lied to her for years about not knowing where Ray was or how to contact him, despite her being in contact with him in secret.
“That was a lie the entire time,” she said.
“Suzi is textbook narcissist, and I think that just by being her daughter I have picked up some of those traits,” Kail said.
“But I think I can also recognize what’s not OK,” she added.
Kail also found out why her dad was not in her life— and that it was not for the reasons Suzi had given her.
“Suzi simply kept Raymond away because she did not like him. He was not violent, he was not an alcoholic, he was not on drugs,” Kail said, adding that her dad was “very blue collar” and sometimes out of work in the construction business. “The way it was explained to me by my mom was, ‘He’s a bum, he’s never had a job.’..”
Kail learned that, according to Ray, he showed up to every custody court date regarding her but was “thrown to the side” and not permitted to see Kail.
“At that point he had to stop trying,” she said. “It was the ’90s. I think I was putting so much emphasis on today’s technology, like, why didn’t you try harder? But sitting in front of him asking him ‘What did you do to try to see me?’ He did. He tried to call my grandparents. My mom moved around a lot.”
“Suzi has now turned in this conversation from Boozy Suzi to Boozy Bamboozling Suzi,” Lindsie stated.
Kail stated that— despite their estrangement— she is going to try to get in contact with her mom to confront her with the things her dad revealed.
“I’m going to try but I don’t think [Suzi’s] husband will allow [the meet-up],” Kail said. “It’s giving hostage situation. It’s very Stockholm situation, so I do think he’s going to block [us meeting up] every step of the way, which scares me.”
“I need to get into contact with her to make peace with her, whatever that looks like,” Kail said later. “I told my dad, ‘I am so tired of being angry. I’m so mad. I’ve been mad my whole life and I’m so tired of that. I’m just tired.”
Last year, Kail spoke on one of her podcasts about her estrangement from Suzi, stating that she feels badly for cutting Suzi out of her life. (As ‘Teen Mom 2’ fans will remember, Kail has had a very strained relationship with Suzi for the majority of her life, due in part to Suzi’s alcoholism. Suzi has only met two of Kail’s seven kids because of this.)
“The guilt has eaten me alive,” Kail said. “…Like, I cut off my own mom by choice, and it eats me alive every single day.”
Kail did not reveal when she plans to begin her hunt for her mom.
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As others have noted, this seems kind of like a bad road to go back down but gotta have a plot line for the latter half of the year after getting unneeded plastic surgery and that didnt work, and then the storyline about her mental illness leading to said unneeded plastic surgery both flopped. She has been nurturing this storyline properly and it is finally ready to milk till December romance time and another man/baby daddy or early February’s storyline of “Having the kids meet their dads and reconnect to family” before returning to a plastic surgery storyline right before summer….
I’m sorry that must have been infuriating. There are far too many people who are parents despite their selfishness ensuring they will never be decent parents. They put their comfort, sex life, greed, ego above keeping a stable life for their kids.
Reply fail to Ricky…
Sometimes the absence has to be the closure. Learned that the hard way with my Dad.
Honestly..who’s to say if her dad isn’t lying as well?She’s just going to take the word of a man she has had almost no contact with for her entire life as the truth?A man on the brink of mortality? Who has nothing left to lose?
The only think kail needs closure on is her legs.
If I were Kail, I wouldn’t even bother wasting my time. I thought confronting my mom would be a relief—that it might lift a weight off my shoulders and bring some closure….but it didn’t. She claimed she didn’t remember half of the things she did, and said the rest was just “my perception.” Then she told me she was “numb” to what I was saying. How thoughtful, right? I walked away without an ounce of closure, while she felt better about herself and told her friend that just listening to me was what a “mother” should do. Still no accountability for her toxic, disgusting behavior.
And I’ll say this from experience, having dealt with both, mother issues, in my opinion, are far worse than father issues. Because as a mother myself, I know God instilled in us a maternal instinct. To hurt your own children repeatedly, from their childhood into adulthood, is beyond cruel….it’s despicable.
I think she needs to confront her. She clearly needs some sort of closure in this situation. Say what you want about Kail, but one thing she wil never be, is like her parents.
idk why people are convinced her kids are gonna be exactly like her resentful of their mother when they’re all clearly close and isaac has nothing but great things to say about her
Kail your mom resents you because you are everything she will never be i would never try to have a conversation with her she is not worth your time, your days are very full and your children love you ❤️ that’s enough
Im no contact with my dad, and low contact with my narcissist mother. The only reason I am low contact and not no contact w pers ith her is because I’m going through the le evingal system for medical neglect. she is a witness to a surgeon illegally performing non-emergency surgery on my and almost killed me. I’ll need her witness testimony, but that doesn’t mean she’s not a horrible person and I made that very clear. She is not welcome on my property and she 8s not welcome to phone me. Besides being my witness, I don’t have total recollection of what happened to me. I know a lot of what did, but im not sure if parts of it wre real or hallucination. other than that, butch can die for all I care. I will be shitting on both parents’ graves thankfully, im pretty sure my dad will be dead in the next year or so
Kail’s mom is awful, she deserves some accountability
Don’t give a shit! Confront anybody you want, your kids are going to confront you, that I will read.
Kind of a hateful reply. Kail seems to have a great relationship with her kids and she at least seems to acknowledge that she’s not perfect. Her kids are in sports, dressed well, vacationing all over, doing well in school, well fed and living a dream like completed to what Kail grew up in. Why wish that on anyone?
I think this is fruitless. Her mother won’t give her the response that she wants. She sucks worse than mine did by lying about him not wanting to see her. Worse than mine did.
idc im all for children confronting their pos parents and hopefully it brings all of them much deserved peace in their life 🤷🏻♀️
I met my biological father at 21. He always tried to play dad. I never looked at him that way though. He’s a stranger. I grew up poor. Like, really poor. One day he said my mom was a “bitch” for trying to get cs. I walked out of the room to control my anger. Needless to say I don’t speak to him.