Kail Lowry is reeling from the loss of her father, whom she recently reconnected with after a lifetime apart.
The former Teen Mom star announced on her Barely Famous podcast on Friday that Raymond Lowry passed away on September 29, just 14 days after she made the trip to Texas to confront Ray about his absence in her life. As fans will remember, Kail had only met her father once before— during the filming of her 16 and Pregnant episode in 2009. The meeting did not go well, and Kail did not stay in contact with Ray. In July, Kail revealed that Ray was on hospice due to him having stage 4 chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD).
Kail decided to go see her father, and learned the reasons behind many of the things that Ray did— or didn’t do— during her childhood. During an episode of her Karma & Chaos podcast, Kail expressed plans to visit her father again. However, that would not end up being possible.
“My aunt called and I was like, ‘Let me answer’ because she doesn’t really call me,” Kail said. “…I answer and I don’t think she even said ‘Good morning’ or anything. It was, ‘Your dad passed away.’ He passed away that morning.
“It was exactly two Mondays after I saw him,” Kail told her friend Kristen on the podcast. “…I saw him on September 15th and he died on the 29th.”
Kail said she had only begun to “process everything that occurred” during her trip to see her dad and did not know how to handle the news that Ray was now gone.
“I was going back and forth on even going to go see him and stuff like that,” she said. “And the day I went to visit him with my sister and my aunt, I was driving there with the ‘F**k you’ mentality. I get to the door, and then I cry for the entire two-hour visit. By the end of it, I know that he said that I still looked mad. At the end of the visit, that’s what he said.
“And I said, ‘I don’t want to be mad. But you have to think about, this is 30 years of what I thought was a betrayal. I thought you didn’t care about me, just to learn that you tried [to be in my life].’ It’s like, it’s going to take some time to process this and, I don’t know, really come to terms with it.”
As The Ashley previously reported, Ray revealed during the visit that Kail’s mom Suzi had been lying to her for most of her life regarding him and things that happened in the past. After hearing her father’s side of things, Kail stated on the most-recent episode of her Coffee Convos podcast that she is now determined to come face-to-face with her estranged mother.
Kail became tearful when she talked to Kristen about the fact that she will never get to see her father again.
“I thought that I was going to have one more visit in me, in him,” she said. “Like I thought I would go down [to see him] one more time by the end of the year. I softened up enough to think about, ‘OK, I might go down one more time before he passes.’ And I never got a chance in those two weeks.”
The former ‘Teen Mom’ star said that she wishes her dad could know “how much peace that visit gave me.’
“I wanted to tell him,” she said. “I thought I was going to have a chance to tell him before he died.”
(Photos: MTV)
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Her dad was still trash. Remember her visit at 16 and how badly that went? And any time after that he could have reached out. Also, her sister told her previously that he was a crap parent to her too. But cool make things interesting by “confronting” her terrible mother which will go nowhere but be interesting info for her podcast i guess.
It’s great she got to have that talk with him before he passed. I do know that nobody would keep me from my kids though. For the courts to demand he stay away, he must’ve done something first. Not saying Suzi didn’t do her part in the whole mess, but something doesn’t add up with his story. Suzi and her lack of love and parenting for kail, that’s where Kails damage lies. You could tell in the series that kail knew her mother didn’t love her. That mother wound is deep and painful and throbbing a screws up a persons whole entire life.
He was in hospice wtf did she think was gunna happen
I never defend that fat cow but one of my friends is in hospice care but still able to do most things without help.
Now it’s time for Kail to play the sympathy card now more than ever…Kail only cares about Kail!!! That’s the way it always has been, that’s the way it always will be
Hope she’s happy!!! No matter what their differences were that’s still her dad and she should been respectful by NOT turning her back on him….maybe he would have reciprocated that respect but now she’ll never know…GOD I HATE HER
No you dont. You hate yourself and youre projecting. Youre pathetic. Get help.
There weren’t any “differences”, they didn’t get into a fight. There was an entire childhood of lies and parental alienation perpetrated by entitled, alcoholic Suzie. She never told her daughter the truth. Kail, like many kids, grew up believing an entire alternate version of reality. One where her dad didn’t want her. If you haven’t witnessed that type of situation before, you really don’t know what it’s like. I’m so glad they got some closure with each other.
Suzie on the other hand…
My mother tried to do that to me but my dad actually did show up & stayed active in my life. She definitely messed with my head. He found a way to make good money so that he could.
You’re sick and just want to find another reason to justify the hate you have for her for whatever reason.
She had a mom growing up telling her what a horrible person he was in addition to never seeing him try to be there for her as she got older. It’s not about her turning her back o him, It’s what she knew and sadly this isn’t uncommon to those who have absent parents. Most don’t even get an attempt to find peace which she did.
Nah she turned her back because she found him gross
Lisa, i don’t have to justify my hate for Kail. Her stupidity justifies it for me
Reeling from the loss of someone she met twice…and both were either televised or podcasted, hmmm. A squirrel gets more mourning
You have no idea what you are talking about. When you feel abandoned by a parent, why should you give another chance? I get her mom kept him away when she was a small child, but why didn’t he try more when she got older?
Wow
It’s almost as if you shouldn’t treat ppl like shit bc you never know when they’ll be gone.
Amazing.
The way I was raised is that you give respect to the people who gave you life, a roof over your head and put food on the table…then when you are 18 and a fellow adult you will receive respect back.
Respect is EARNED not freely given…she was the child, they were the parent…a child should respect their parents no matter what.
What are you even going on about. Except he didn’t anyways and she didn’t owe him any of that
Hopefully, you experienced a good family. However, that would be the most unhealthy choice to make in an abusive or toxic family. It quite literally is how the abuse and toxicity gets passed down to each generation. People make the choices that they need to for their survival, and that includes mental and emotional. If someone needs to walk away to save themselves, then that’s what they should do.
In a healthy loving family, none of those threats about respect need to be said because everyone is respected.
Um no. You were brainwashed.
How is brainwashing to be taught to respect the people that gave you life?
Because just as you said, respect is EARNED, not given. If a parent is abusive or absent or hateful or over controlling or in any way toxic, they don’t EARN respect but rather they DEMAND it under the claims of “I’m your parent, etc”
Try “respecting” an abusive and toxic “parent.” Just because you have the equipment doesn’t mean you should reproduce.
I did respect an abusive parent…my father.
It’s was the alcohol that made him yell, scream and knock me around so why should I fault HIM? Not his fault that he was in the grips of an addiction, when he was sober he was salt of the damn earth.
Despite his addiction he still worked 30-40 hours a week so that I had a roof over my head, food on the table and a warm bed to sleep in at night.
But you and everyone else seems to be missing the point, HE was parent I was the kid…he owed me NOTHING and I owed him A LOT.
And when I turned 18, the respect I gave him he gave back because i had EARNED it.
“All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way”
From Anna Karina
You really are brainwashed. He owed you EVERYTHING and you owed him NOTHING. I truly hope you see help and heal before you reproduce because you are exactly the kind of person who repeats the cycle.
This is such a gross take. There’s no way you should have to respect someone that gave birth to you no matter what. What if one of your parents was a child molester? What if the other parent allowed it to happen? Thank God not all people think like you and think that everything is black and white. So easy for someone to say “you should love your parents no matter what” when clearly you haven’t had the trauma that some people have had. GFY
I feel sorry for that kid you’re holding, thinking there is a gray areas for respect is bs…if that is the lesson you’re teaching him or her they’ll be in jail or dead by 18.
ALWAYS respect your elders…respect is EARNED not freely given…that’s ALL THERE IS TO IT!!!
“Respect is EARNED”, not freely given yet claiming you need to respect your parent no matter what they do or don’t do, is the literal definition of a contradiction.
I wish my mother would hurry up & go tho. The world would be a better place
Having those feelings only shows how stupid you are and that the world would be a better place without YOU
You are a foul human being. It’s no wonder you say a person should respect their parent no matter what they do. Because you are clearly the kind of person who would mistreat your kids and tell them they have to take it because you’re their parent and treat them like property.
I’m glad she got closure.
Lol, a 15 min death bed meeting gave her closure, aww so sweet. Do you hear yourself? Kail cares about Kail only, and remember sweetie, she made a podcast episode out of it, financially benefiting HER, as per usual. Keep worshipping the cow
I mean everyone is just believing that Ray was speaking truth. I always believe there is three sides. In this case, Rays, Suzi’s and the truth probably lays somewhere in the middle. Everyone interprets situations differently. The ma was dying and may have wanted to have time with his daughter so told her what she needed to hear. Doesn’t mean it’s true.
Agreed. Tough to get past the way he treated Kail when she was a teenager in a terrible situation. It seems to have given her some peace though.
I hope just because he’s dead she doesn’t put all this blame on the one parent that was present, because if her father really wanted to be in her life he could have been! If he didn’t have money for an attorney he could have gone to family court office and they would have given him forms to complete on his own where he could have challenged her mother.
In my state in the 80s it typically went to the mother unless could proove abuse. I never talked & was too scared to go through the upheaval of a trial & I knew it would get worse. I also didn’t want to hurt my dad by talking. These things are very complex
She can verify it with other family members
The ongoing Suzi / Karen picture and captions will never get old.
It’s good that she was able to see him and get some peace with their conversation. 2 weeks goes by far too quickly and that isn’t enough time to reconnect with someone sadly. She recorded and posted their conversation on social media which I thought was invasive. Despite me disagreeing with that I still feel empathy for her. To find out you have been lied to your entire life and been angry at your father for your entire life based on those lies is devastating. And neither one of their faults. I think those who have lost someone always has something they wish they could have said or get a hug one last time. That’s one of the hardest parts when someone you love is gone. I hope that she did get peace that her dad actually wanted to be there for her.
i’m glad she went and got the answers she needed, it’s so important for not just her but for everyone to do whatever it takes for their peace! i hope she doesn’t wait too long to confront smirnoff suzie because unless they were a danger, it’s beyond messed up for any parent to not allow their child’s other parent into their life
(also not to be rude but her dad was in hospice, how much time did kail really think he had?)
With women like that it’s pointless. Lots of mother’s that way unfortunately. Mine is. I could confront her till I’m blue in the face, it won’t change anything.
I’m happy for Kail that she was finally getting her answers to all of her questions. Personally I really think that she needed to do this for mental health reasons and I hope that she got some clarity as to her childhood.
Hopefully she’ll deal with his death easier than she would’ve had she not spoken to him.
Now it’s time for Kail to play the sympathy card now more than ever…Kail only cares about Kail!!! That’s the way it always has been, that’s the way it always will be
Something is wrong with you.
Nothing, get a life and a job…learn some damn respect!!! All people older than you are above you…get that through your thick skull
I can tell you I’ve never known a single older person above me. All of my family was abusive and terrible as was my husbands families. We cut them off and ran states away because they DESERVE NOTHING, especially not any respect.
You are sick and you are exactly the kind of person who abuses their kid into being a serial killer. I truly hope you do not ever have kids and if you do have kids, I hope they run away from you to heal the damage you will inevitably do.