Tyler Baltierra called out social media content creators this week who continue to discuss his biological daughter Carly, claiming that, at this point, certain online creators have talked about the teen publicly more than he has.
As fans of ‘Teen Mom’ know, Tyler and his wife Catelynn Lowell placed Carly for adoption in 2009, but in 2024, the couple was cut off from contacting the teen after her parents, Brandon and Teresa Davis, closed their adoption. Since then, Tyler and Cate have crusaded against the adoption industry, and called out Carly’s parents online for keeping Carly from them without providing a real explanation as to why.
Earlier this week, Tyler commented on a video posted by @rei_clarke, which addressed the public’s running commentary on Carly and her adoption. In his comment, Tyler acknowledged the boundaries some content creators have crossed when it comes to Carly, noting that he and Catelynn “never blasted her photos online [but] creators did.”
(Over the past few years, current photos of Carly have circulated on ‘Teen Mom’ fan pages. Brandon and Teresa have always tried to keep Carly’s current appearance private, even barring MTV from showing her face once Carly got to a certain age.)
“I’ve never posted a photo without consent since the first & only time it ever happened, over a decade ago,” Tyler wrote, adding that he “never wished to coparent [with Brandon and Teresa], only to maintain the agreement we all made for Carly.”
In another comment on the post, Tyler seemingly criticized those who make assumptions about Carly’s feelings and Brandon and Teresa’s actions regarding Carly, insisting that if “creators” and people in general really cared about Carly, they would stop bringing her up and “perpetuating” conversations about her on social media.
Tyler also defended the fact that he has publicly spoken about Carly and her parents, claiming that he only does so when “misinformation is brought to [his] attention.”
He then called out online video creators for criticizing him and Catelynn for not giving Carly her privacy, but then going on to make videos about Carly, her parents and her adoption.
“At this rate, content creators have said her name, talked about her, her adoption & her parents far more than I ever did in the past 16 yrs on TV lol,” Tyler wrote.
Tyler went on to say that ‘Teen Mom’ fans often act like they know a lot about Carly’s adoption just from watching ‘Teen Mom.’
“I know everyone believes they know more about my adoption dynamic than I do, but I don’t take it personal,” Tyler wrote. “Since I know they’re only basing it on a very limited perspective of a complex situation designed for TV entertainment. Their perspective of my reality is valid…but only in their world, not mine.”
Tyler wrote that he and Catelynn simply want to know if it was Carly who wanted her adoption closed, or if it was Brandon and Teresa. This comment was met with some criticism from fans.
“He is not a co-parent!” the person wrote of Tyler. “No answer is a sufficient answer. [Carly’s parents] are protecting their peace. This peace has been disturbed by ‘Teen Mom’ for almost 14 years post when they asked to no longer be featured on or discussed on the show. Yet it continued. Tyler’s insistence that he needs to know that it was a minor child’s decision to close the adoption is unhealthy for him to hyper-fixate on, and also something he isn’t entitled to know.”
Tyler replied to that comment, writing that he doesn’t agree that silence from Carly’s side is sufficient.
“Again, it’s about maintaining transparency with one another for the sake of the child,” he wrote. “If [both sets of parents] are aware and communicative about what she needs, then there’s no room for confusion, pain or assumptions for all involved.
“I don’t believe I am owed anything. Carly is,” Tyler continued, adding that Carly’s parents have chosen to appear on MTV numerous times after they said they were done with the show.
“…it’s pretty difficult to identify/respect someone else’s boundaries when they keep changing them, but not communicating them,” Tyler wrote of Carly’s parents. “My insistence is not about hearing it from [Carly] directly; it’s simply about wanting her parents to maintain their end of the agreement and participate in effective and open communication.”
On Wednesday, Tyler posted a quote to Instagram Stories about keeping biological families together.
“Biological families belong together whenever that is safe and possible and the child is loved and wanted by their parent(s).”
Tyler’s criticism towards content creators who continue to discuss Carly in their videos comes just a month after Cate slammed fan pages on social media for allegedly “stealing Carly’s pictures from her prom,” sharing them online and, in some cases, even making inappropriate comments about the 16-year-old’s appearance, calling the actions “ridiculous” and “disgusting.”
(Photos: MTV; Instagram)
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Both of them are going to be the reason Carly does not want contact when she turns 18. WTF kind of parent disrespects all boundaries as much as those two. STOP TALKING ABOUT HER. STOP TEXTING HER AND HER FRIENDS. You only do this when you need content for social media. I remember when Dawn called you both out for not sending gifts or cards at all for a few years, and then cried when you wanted a visit aired and they said no. They only want contact when it suits them and their fake jobs.
Can we start a countdown for when Carly is 18 and still refusing contact with this dimwit?
The boundaries keep changing because Cate and Tyler keep stomping on the ones set forth for them. Brandon and Teresa have to put Carly’s safety first. If they can’t trust Cate and Ty, then they have to restrict contact. Cate and Ty proved how necessary this was when they were communicating with the person who they believed was Carly’s minor friend.
Tyler can spin every narrative under the sun, but he has proven to be an unsafe adult in Carly’s life by not respecting her parents’ decisions. Unfortunately, he won’t ever understand it because he doesn’t want to prioritize anyone’s needs/wants but his own.
The boundaries are crystal clear when you are not being intentionally obtuse. Shut about this kid who isn’t yours! There is no “both sets of parents” and no need for communication.
You guys NEVER stop talking about her! Yet somehow you are trying to make it seem like it’s other creators’ fault. NO. It is your fault cuz you never shut up about her. And the “mishap” with the photo you did years ago was still very disrespectful even if you only did it twice. And the story in the end says everything about their delusion. I truly think they believe as soon as Carly becomes 18, she will “come back” to Cate&Ty crying how bad it was with Brandon&Theresa and that she is glad that her “real family” is back. When in reality she prob doesn’t even remember them. And once again Ty, it was YOU who pressured Cate into putting Carly to adoption. (Thank God for Carly! Can you imagine her living with these two?!) And now you act like you didn’t. Nice try. We also remember when you called her heifer. Cate is not perfect but she should have left your sorry ass years ago.
🗣️Cate and Tyler’s “Worldwide Privacy Tour.” 🌈
Step 1) Don’t mention Carly’s name
Step 2) Continue not to mention Carly’s name
Step 3) You did it! That’s literally IT
Tyler saying that biological families should be together is funny. Does he forget that he pressured Catelynn into putting Carly up for adoption? Does he think that adoption means the adoptive parents raise the child as their own until a certain age, then surrender that child back to the biological parents? He can’t really be that clueless and stupid, can he? Someone needs to inform Tyler that adoption isn’t free daycare until the child turns a certain age. Adoption is forever. He didn’t want Carly and anyone who watched the show since the old days knows this. In the beginning I don’t think he ever planned on staying with Cate and didn’t want to be tied to her through Carly, so he put on the big squeeze to make her give the baby up. Almost 20 years and 3 more kids later, they’re still together and he’s wracked with guilt over forcing the adoption. Heaven forbid Nova, Vaeda & Rya ever see those old episodes and come to realize the real story and not the manufactured crap Tyler spews.
Catelyn and Tyler act like Carly has this deep relationship with them this bond . Does Catelyn have a super huge bond with April even though she is her biological mother ? Does Tyler have this heart felt relationship with Butch ? . The truth is just because someone is your parent it doesn’t mean you have this close knit bond . Catelyn and Tyler are like distant relatives she never sees they are like strangers . The only thing that makes it different is that these strangers have never stopped talking about you for the past 16 years . Maybe Carly doesn’t want them to know it was her decision to cut them off .m.. but yet it’s all about Carly right . No dude it’s about them and what they want . THEY want to know whose decision it was . Tyler and Catelyn it is not about YOU !!!!!!!!! . If Carly wants something to do with them she’ll seek out a relationship at 18 . If she doesn’t I’m sure they’ll spin it to make it look like Brandon and Teresa are the villains and they are the victims .
“Again, it’s about maintaining transparency with one another for the sake of the child,” he wrote. “If [both sets of parents] are aware and communicative about what she needs, then there’s no room for confusion, pain or assumptions for all involved.”
NO NO NO!!!!!! There is no “both sets of parents”, “for the sake of the child” or transparency needed! Tyler you are cut off from the child’s life in every way. There is no need for her parents to be transparent with you. What is “for the sake of the child” is decided by her parents- and they’ve decided to have 0 relationship with you. That should show Tyler all he needs to know.
This. There are no “both sets of parents.” Brandon and Theresa are her parents. And they should have closed that adoption from the beginning but they had no way of knowing Caitlyn and Tyler would be obsessed with Carly her entire life.
They were minors. The adoptive parents didn’t have respect for C’s mom telling them to stay away from their minor daughter and took their grandbaby.
Because April is a crackhead.
Seriously?
Are you drunk April?
Tyler didn’t want that baby & threatened to leave Cate if she didn’t put it up for adoption. We all saw it. Don’t try to change the narrative now. Tyler didn’t want a child & Cate wanted Tyler more than she wanted to be a mother. Period.
He has no problem with the sycophant creators. He’s just upset at the ones, who have been gaining traction, with exposing his and Catelynn’s shenanigans, regarding Carly. They haven’t cared about Carly’s privacy in 17 years, and they don’t care now.
Boundaries have been the same for the past 16 years. And creators talk about Carly because you won’t shut up about her. I hope she sends them a restraining order the minute she turns 18
I believe strongly that she will. She looks and behaves like a typical 17 year old, yet Cate and Ty would have you believe she just is not smart enough to figure out how to contact them. She can drive, use a phone, and a computer, but she has no way to contact them suposedly if she wanted to. The silence is very telling. She is not contacting them because she does not want to contact them.
It can’t be ignored either that the reason they were on the show was to view the perspective of giving a child up for adoption. It was the producers job to ask them these questions about Carly and about their future plans now that the burden has been removed. However, over time I believe the realities of going to college and pursuing dreams were clouded by limitations. Not by money but by academic prowess and proper support, April seems like she can barely spare a square let alone talk you of quitting school when it’s too hard. So, the conversation over time was only about Carly. Even before she was born they were talking like maybe someday, somehow she would come back to them when she was 18. Watching that in real time made me sad because I knew they did not understand the gravity of the situation. She was going to grow up in a different world and be a different person, the adoptive parents may be deeply religious but cate and Tyler are just not their sort of people darling.
If you and Cate left that poor girl alone no one would talk about her. Take your own advise and please shut the fuck up.
Amen
The delulu is strong with this one.
Ummm……. 🤨🥸
I cannot even bring myself to read the full article when the headline is enough to say STFU Tyler. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black. The only reason any other creators talk about her or know so much about her is because him and Cate run their mouths nonstop.