Kristin Cavallari and Jay Cutler finalized their divorce in June– more than two years after announcing their split– and though Kristin claims her marriage to the former NFL player was “toxic,” she hopes Jay is able to find love in the future.
Kristin opened up about the decade she spent with Jay on this week’s episode of the Call Her Daddy podcast, reminding listeners that before walking down the aisle in 2013, she had at one point called the whole thing off. In fact, according to BuzzFeed, Kristin called off the engagement years ago for the same reason she and Jay ultimately divorced.
“I called off the engagement the same reason I got a divorce– same reasons, I should say,” she said. “I guess if there’s any takeaway from that, it’s that you can’t ignore red flags, people don’t change, and you gotta trust your gut.”
Shortly after announcing their split in 2020, it was reported that Jay and Kristin’s breakup was not the result of an affair, though many suspected it was, based on the wording used in the couple’s divorce paperwork filings. Months later, however, Kristin revealed she and Jay had been struggling privately for years.
The end of the couple’s union also led to the end of their E! reality series, Very Cavallari, with Kristin claiming in the fall of 2020 that she decided to stop filming in order to keep her divorce from being exposed on TV and having the three children she and Jay share being able to see the split play out one day. The former Laguna Beach star confirmed this week that she’s still hesitant to speak publicly about certain aspects of her marriage because she wants to protect her children.
“Because I have three kids with him, I’m very careful about what I say,” Kristin told host Alex Cooper. “If you and I didn’t have microphones in front of us, I’d f**king tell you, but that’s their dad and my oldest [child] Googles us now, and I just want to be very careful. It was toxic. Period, end of story. That’s all I kind of need to say.”
Kristin went on to talk about the moment she finally realized things between her and Jay needed to end, admitting she was “really unhappy.”
“I was in an unhealthy relationship, and so that, to me, is not worth it,” she said.
Kristin– who recently launched a ‘Laguna Beach’ rewatch podcast with ex-boyfriend and former co-star Stephen Colletti– said she also didn’t want her kids to grow up thinking the relationship between their parents or their mother’s unhappiness “was normal.”
“I wanted them to see me happy and see my eventually– not right now– but eventually, see me with someone who really respects me and treats me the way I need to be treated,” she said.
According to People, Kristin also wants to see her ex find happiness, as well as another woman to marry.
“I hope that he finds someone, I really do,” she said. “I mean, I want him happy. My kids benefit from that, you know? So I hope that he gets remarried. I mean, I really do.”
Jay has yet to respond to Kristin’s latest comments.
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